Thread Topic: schizoïde but in a relation?
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moonprayer
Joined: Jul 28, '09
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2009-07-28 03:17:20 |
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hi. i've done the test, beacause I was searching the internet for labels... i have always felt like an outcast. my very first years of school, the teacher said, she need to go on a social sport or something, she lacks social skills. So instead of a social sport, my mom put me on horseback riding. I love it still, but it's only social with animals, not with people. when I grew up, I had friends, but not intimite. I had friends that I could spend weeks with, but I just played by myself with their playmobile ;) I don't think i'm very un-social, I dont get sweaty in social situans, or with lots of crowds. But my boyfriend attended me on my weird behaviour in shops, I just didn't said, good weekdend! goodbye! or other things.. it never ocoured to me. now I have learned myself to say these fraises. I;m now 22. i dedicate my life to horses. and I have a boyfriend, 5 years now. i have no sex drive, but I like it when he gives me attention, like a hug or something. I DO long for those things. and then there is my world of feeling, or should I say NON-Feelings. I cannot be outragious!, I cannot be enthousiastic, I can not be very emotional. the feelings should be there, deeeep under the surface, and the surface is not even wrinkled. My boyfriend cheated on me, and for 3 seconds I lost myself, And then suddenly it was all calm inside of me, like it has always been. And I have not felt bad about it again. he's a borderliner. Great combination. He, with his over emotional mood swings. en then there's me. no feelings, no desires, no passion. does it sound like schizoïde? Because I CAN function like a "normal" person in social situations. And I have been in a relationship for 5 years, and I do long for a hug now and then. |
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Unanswered Thread: where do you go to get your test marks? posted by Dark 8 days ago |
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fantasy
Joined: Jul 28, '09
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2009-07-28 11:03:28 |
| You might be a schizoid, it does sound like it but I'm not sure at all. It sucks that both of you, you and your boyfriend, has problems. But at least you have someone you trust and can get a hug from. | |
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diamond4
Joined: Sep 12, '09
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2009-09-12 15:01:53 |
| based on moonprayers history i can confidently confirm that she is schizoid who has leant to blend in in social situations yet still maintain her identity. and is unaffected or indipended of other idiots lack of loyality and trustworthness | |
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moonprayer
Joined: Jul 28, '09
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2009-10-04 08:00:30 |
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can you be more specif---, as you can see, my english is not good enough. |
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Perez
Joined: Oct 10, '09
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2009-10-10 04:07:53 |
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yep, i think you are a schizoid btw:what language are you good enough at? |
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CrazyGuy
Joined: Oct 13, '09
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2009-10-13 19:54:14 |
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Schizoids can have relationships its just generally harder for then. Having you boyfriend be a bordeliner probably makes it easier for you two to connect |
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moonprayer
Joined: Jul 28, '09
Status: New User |
2009-12-28 12:59:14 |
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I think that's correct. it's easier because he is really emotional. just... I don't know how long before the well runs dry. I tend to forget EVERYTHING and it's driving him nuts. Is forgetting also a part of schizoide disorder? and are you schizoide from birth, or can it be triggered? |
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thedarkbanshee
Joined: Jan 5, '10
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2010-01-05 03:46:18 |
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schizoid in so unknown they dont know if its a learned thing or a birth thing. What I do know is in many ways you appear to be schizoid then again you may not be. You don't give enough facts to be absolutely cretin. There are also things that make you seem non schizoid but I'm leaning towered that you are schizoid. As for your social life I bet you dont realize its a put on to keep from not being socialized with. People don't like you but you know how to get them to like you and you done it your hole life so by now you don't realize any difference. Its like the perfect lye to yourself and your so good at it other will never figure it out that your a natural lyer. I bet its easier for you to lye then tell the truth. Truth must take critical thinking and lyes roll off your tung. Telling the truth gets you into troubble people do not want to hear the truth of things and better yet eve nif you told a truth people want to hear it takes so much brain processing that when you answer your thinking so much it shows your thinking that extensively and makes you appear to be a lyer when your telling the truth meaning no one will ever see who you really are unless you realize this is what you are and you tell that to them specifically but its so complex to even begin to explain those around to listen wont understand to begin with. If this does sound like you though and you want to save your relationship knowing then the well may eventually run dry best option is to try to explain these things to your partner even if you fail atleast you put effort in. Try to let things happen. Most of all if you are schizoid chances are your with this guy because you don't know who you are as of yet and your trying to expand your life meaning you do not really love this person to begin with. If you loved the person I know from experience that your emotional level will be out in the open because we schizoids are not emotionless we simply lack the expression and when we do have expression to real emotions its because we have something to be emotional about as where most people would have a huge serge of emotion in a situation that only scratches our surface of emotions. Also being pissed about your partner cheating on you. The emediate lack of emotion is do to your logic because you realize being upset about it helps nothing. Furthermore I bet if you wanted you could have keeped the emotion flowing and you felt you could but dident because stopping is more logical. once the emotions come out you can hold on to them if you like I do it at times just because its actually a bit enjoyable sence its a rare thing to feel such emotion to begin with. |
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