living with a narcissistic man

littlelamb36 Joined: Dec 25, '09 Status: New User	2009-12-25 13:10:34
	i recently found this site and had my fiance do the test and came out that he had alot of the disorders which after the page came up he was like this is crap. well of course he would say that because he has never once admitted to being wrong about anything. ever it is always me he is the victim, he uses work as an excuse for everything, his diabetes is an excuse for his lack of labido which is a complete excuse and lie, which i cant get into because it would be to graphic and inappropriate on here. he is a terrible father to our daughter who just turned a year old but then of course has excuses for that too. i mean he says and does the most crazy stuff, lies like a rug, and then he wonders why i refuse to marry him and have told him that i am leaving him. he is acting like he has done nothing wrong and he is the victim in all of it. yet thankfully his children from his first marriage know that it is all him that he was a bad father to him and know that i am leaving and it is a good think because they feel bad for there sister and dont want her to go through what they did. his father and step mother are both aware of all his lies and that he has been a crappy dad to his other children and realize he puts on a show when they are around that he has a gambling problem and doesnt know how to manage money so they understand. yet his mother who recently had an arguement with me because he went to her and told her i spent allhis money and basically lied through his teeth lashed into me and told me how grateful is should be to have a man like him in my life because her son is perfect i laughed although i said my peace to her and told her the truth which she refused to hear because as she said my son is perfect he does no wrong i was like what ever lady. So i subtitle this the hampster wheel becaue what i realized is that being with someone like him is like being on a hampster wheel you go around and around in circles but get no where they all about me, my and i. there will never be and us, we and or our. so i have decided it is better to be on my own with my daughter than to with her father for all the wrong reasons.
epiphany Joined: Dec 24, '09 Status: New User	2009-12-26 16:17:31
	u say a lot. but nothing indicates he's a narcissistic.
erinro Joined: Nov 13, '09 Status: Senior User	2009-12-26 16:19:36
	sounds like a good decision! you already got what you needed from him anyway since you have your daughter. =) Have you left him yet?
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