Would like some input please?

Annette Joined: Dec 19, '09 Status: New User	2009-12-20 16:21:15
	I think also the more one knows a person can equal the more invested you become in the friendship or relationship? This can mean an opening to being hurt....dangerzone! That might be why it is often easier to feel empathy for someone we do not know as well. I dunno just pondering out loud really.
Delirius Joined: Nov 3, '09 Status: Junior User	2009-12-20 18:39:10
	I really dont care for my family though, I don't want a relationship with them.
Annette Joined: Dec 19, '09 Status: New User	2009-12-20 19:55:37
	Yeah Delirius, I don't think family means you have to love them....some families really are not very nice. For many years my friends were my family. It was a choice I made to focus on family more. But I understand if you simply do not care for them. Maybe they don't deserve it. I don't agree with that "blood is thicker than water" saying. Sometimes friends can be much more caring than a persons own family.
Delirius Joined: Nov 3, '09 Status: Junior User	2009-12-20 20:11:50
	Well my family great I just don't have the want for them. I don't feel any compassion for them or anyone else. My mom is one of those overly sensitive/emotion people which annoys the hell out of me. When I told her after I move out forever I'm not going to talk to any of you she's cried.
elisafauzana Joined: Aug 27, '09 Status: Senior User	2009-12-20 20:45:37
	but u r still staying with yur family, right, delirius? sorry if im wrong, so you r saying yur family is great, but u just don't like them?
Delirius Joined: Nov 3, '09 Status: Junior User	2009-12-20 20:51:46
	Yea that's what I'm saying. And I'm staying with them because I have to not because I want to
Cosof Joined: Jan 21, '10 Status: New User	2010-01-21 01:05:31
	Loving family depends on experience, I suppose. In a sense I love mine, I just don't really care for them, they ain't a bad bunch. 'kay, how about this-- yeah again, it says 'no empathy', but I've got a lot of that, just ... no bloody sympathy :p I can understand people outstandingly, down to an emotional level, it's just that I don't feel bad for them, if you're in pain it's your own fault, you're in charge of your own life, don't let it happen kind of thing. Anyone else ..?
Annette Joined: Dec 19, '09 Status: Junior User	2010-01-21 02:03:39
	Wow Cosof I so disagree in one way. I think that people having bad lives is not always a choice. It is not as simple as...they should have chose better. Many people chose wrongly because of bad programming or mental illness or low self esteem or a variety of other reasons. I do not agree with "your in charge of your own life" until some wisdom is gained. And many do not have the luxury of learning wisdom. Excuse my grammar please...I am drinking. :)
Cosof Joined: Jan 21, '10 Status: New User	2010-01-21 09:24:30
	I half agree with what you're saying, but I believe it is within almost all of our powers to change the way we live our lives after we hit adulthood. What I mean to say is I simply cannot comprehend people that choose to reside on every negativity in their lives for every hour of the day. Perhaps sometimes they have very little choice, but more often than not people don't seem to want to help themselves, like their misery is their defining factor. It just works against them in so many ways *shrug*
JRjames Joined: Jan 21, '10 Status: New User	2010-01-22 00:20:32
	I completely disagree across the chart. What's being said here does not sound right.
fatlemon87 Joined: Jan 25, '10 Status: New User	2010-01-25 02:21:53
	This is how it works for me: I can experience empathy for large groups of people sometimes (i.e. the survivors in Haiti, children w/ AIDS in Africa, etc.), but usually only if their victim-hood did not stem from violence. For example, I had no empathy for the victims of 9/11, and I have to fake that all the time so people don't think I am a monster. I have more empathy for those I identify with least, probably because I don't hold them to my own self-standards. I do have empathy for my brother, he is the only one really, and a little for my father, but that is it. The rest I have to fake, and I am afraid people would hate me if they knew.
Obsidian Joined: Jan 22, '10 Status: New User	2010-01-25 08:12:29
	I don't have any empathy for anyone, all though I use people in different degrees. I treat them better if I can gain something from it. I had some friends since my early childhood. And they know a lot of how I'm because they have seen me turn in to it. They think I'm cold and they know I wouldn't doubt in stabbing them in the back if I gained enough. Also that Haiti Aid thing messed up my TV tableau.
Mia Joined: Dec 14, '10 Status: New User	2010-12-14 08:51:30
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