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tayfo69
Joined: Sep 21, '09
Status: New User |
2009-09-21 20:17:58 |
| I really dont kno where to start. i am a freshmen in college and ive been out of a relationship for almost two years and i meet people all the time but i never stay close to them. i try to get clost to girls but it never works out. i have no trouble meeting people at all in fact its just the opposite everyone loves to meet me. I feel so alone in this world and i keep thinkin everyone would love me and like me if i were famous or super smart or i invented something that would change the world. Are these thoughts normal? or am i crazy? sometimes i think of a world without me or if i died. i am in no way suicidal though, if that makes any sense. i dont kno what to do anymore i try to say cool things or tell stories and i want all the attention all the time. i often wonder what people think about me and if they like me. if they dont then i try to make them like me. over the years i have changed my style of clothes so many times just trying to find me. if one thing goes wrong in a day its like the whole day im in a bad mood and dont want to talk or go anywhere. i look at the relationships people have and how happy they look and no matter how hard i try i cant have that. i have girls that like me but they are not good enough for me or at least thats what i think. i kno im not better than anyone else but in that moment where i make the decision to pursue a relationship i back out but if all the girl wants is sex i will have sex with her. all my past relationships all started with sex on the first day and lasted for no longer than a year. i always thought it was because i was young but now im thinking different. what is wrong with me? the only good thing that comes from the way i am is that my need to be better than everyone else drove me to the top of my class and got me a full scholarship. i chose the hard major in something i really dont like so i can make alot of money. if anyone has any advice for me i would appreciate it because at this point i need help to be happy | |
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Unanswered Thread: What to do?! posted by Jeanine 1 hour ago |
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Hip
Joined: Aug 10, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-09-22 06:58:01 |
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I'm similar to you. I always rejected people's attempts to get to know me cuz I'm too arrogant to open up and let people realize who I really am because I know theyll think less of me. I love to wear my funky badass gear and love getting attention and reputation for being mysterious and tough. I'm an amateur chemist and I have a lab at home, which I play around with in my spare time. I also aspire to be a programmer and computer specialist as a secondary interest. While I may make some progress and make an awesome living someday with my skills, i'm reluctant to admit that I'm not exactly... genius and dont really got jack s--- when it comes to building anything new, nothing that would capture anyones attention anyway. But I do have something I'll call a "sci-fi writer's delusion". Basically, I got ideas about a semi-revolutionary discovery and some of them have a basis in reality, but when I actually try to work on it... it goes nowhere and I realize its easier to talk about something than actually build the f---ing thing. At the same time I get thoughts wondering what the world would be without me, as if I have some kind of crucial role. Unlike you though, Ive only been able to keep a relationship for 6 months. She was the prettiest, kinkiest, most intelligent girl you can think of. But my narcisissm eventually f---ed me over so I dumped her because I was afraid of getting too attached, that displaying emotions meant Im "weak" and "vulnerable". GOOD GOD IM SUCH A DUMB f--- :( Only a homo would do that. but yeah. I am curious and paranoid about what people think of me, and if people disregard me, I make them not like me, but respect me by putting them down and reminding them where they stand (in a s---hole) I'm rather arrogant about growing up in a big city and coming to a small town middle-fingering everyone and telling people what to do :D Anyway, my advice would be to TRY and learn to be more sensitive to a girl's feelings and open up to her one step at a time. Start out by accepting a chick thats attracted by your cockiness (providing she's attractive and everything) and show your concern and affection in your own narcissistic way. If your truly a narcissist then you should be just as cocky about your relationship as you are about yourself. Some chicks love crazy guys like that whose neuroticness can motivate them to be more dedicated to them than average. Then after she gets used to you, you should be compelled to be more open, sensitive and lose the need to maintain a "tough guy" ego. At least thats my plan for the next girl I feel I got a connection with. But remember you always gotta treat girls with respect. Guys exist to protect and treat a gal right, this isnt a f---ing option, its a responsibility. |
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tayfo69
Joined: Sep 21, '09
Status: New User |
2009-09-22 11:53:22 |
| I will put that in practice. thanks for the advice | |
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dgomez67
Joined: Oct 5, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-05 10:17:52 |
| You just want attention... And you feel unworthy/insecure to the point you need to keep changing your identity... I've been single for a year and a half.. Why? Because everyone is an ass and I don't have that kind of free time to waste on pathetic little s---s... Its not your time to be in a relationship, thought of that? | |
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whoknows
Joined: Oct 15, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-15 19:06:01 |
| does anyone go into a panic when someone gets too close? really high anxiety? i sometimes like to flirt, but if it gets close enough to get much further than that, i literally get physically shaky. (i scored moderate for narcissism. i don't know if that means i have NPD or not.) | |
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samo6
Joined: Nov 20, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-20 13:23:18 |
| yeah sounds to me like all of you - apart from dqomez67 - need to get some goals and stop moping around. Pull yourself together and chose one or two things you want and go and take them. There's always a way to get what you want - sometimes you convince yourself that theres not but thats just cause your too lazy. Get a grip on reality and stop worrying about what if. Everyone dies someday and you need to justify your life to yourself - cause if you cant the why the hell should anyone else care about you or your life?>? | |
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Unanswered Thread: VRIELLIS PLEASE READ posted by Synapse 13 days ago |
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