Thread Topic: Welcome to the Narcissistic Forum
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Grecco
Joined: May 28, '09
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2009-05-28 13:01:09 |
| I have a 34-year old son who shows sign of narcissism. He just moved back home as lost job, house, etc. after living in Las Vegas area for the past 6/7 years. As a mother I want to be supportive but don't know where to turn. He and I have always been very close; his father, who I believe is an alcoholic, and I have been divorced since our son was a year old but who has had contact w/our son regularly over the years. My present husband, who is a good but distant personality, has been involved in my son's life since he was 2 years old. | |
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Unanswered Thread: VRIELLIS PLEASE READ posted by Synapse 13 days ago |
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help01
Joined: May 29, '09
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2009-05-29 19:41:51 |
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I need some serious help here. I believe that my husband is narcissistic, but am not sure to what degree or if he can ever change. I have read the book "Help I'm in Love with a Narcissist" and after reading the book it is him to the toxic degree and after reading the book I feel there is no hope for our relationship. He is only interested in what he wants and when he wants it. He is verbally abusive, but not always...you can just never tell what will flip the switch that will throw him into a terrible rage. Calls me names, tells me I'm greedy, tells me I have no goals or ambitions in life, tells me he does all the work (we have our own business) and that I do nothing, then when he is away from or in the office he will need me to do all kinds of favors for him. Then can turn right around and start calling me all the sweetie names, as if nothing has happened. He never wants to talk about what upsets him or me and I usually take the blame for whatever it is. He is also hard on himself, but then tells me I'm no help and things like that. Contradiction is a huge issue. For instance one morning I offered to fix breakfast for him, he said he was too busy for breakfast. So...I fixed a scrambled egg for my puppy. When he entered the room he said "so I guess the puppy is the only one that gets eggs". I explained that I had offered to fix breakfast but he was to busy and didn't want me to. He said "nevermind I'll fix it myself when I'm finished with what I'm doing, besides I want bacon and eggs not just eggs". I've never fixed just eggs when I cook breakfast, it is always bacon and eggs.? Of course I got up and cooked the bacon and waited and waited for him to return. He returned around lunchtime. I explained I hadn't cooked the eggs, because I didn't want them to get cold. He said he would fix them himself in a cold manner.?! Sex is also a big issue for him. He is obsessed with money, power and beauty. He had friends that help him whenever he asks and then says things negative to me about them. His children have issues too. Not so much the oldest one, she was put in jail once, but charges were dropped, but the younger one has already been in jail twice and is on probation for 4 years. She continues the behavior. She feels rules just do not apply to her and he feels that rules do not apply to him, but they do not get along. He makes rules for everyone else, but then does whatever he wishes. He only degrades me and his children, but not my children.? He is a successful business owner, but also has alot of debt. |
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help01
Joined: May 29, '09
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2009-05-29 21:05:54 |
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I failed to mention that he doesn't think there is anything wrong with him and doesn't need any help and by the way is "ready to take on any psychiatrist or psychologist". He even told me he saw a psychiatrist once and they told him he had obsessive compulsive disorder and that he is so smart and thinks so fast that the psychiatrist couldn't keep up with him or do anything for him. He appears to like the love/hate relationsip and has told me that's the passion. Since I will no longer participate in fighting with him he says the passion is gone.? |
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worriedwife
Joined: Jun 2, '09
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2009-06-02 12:02:23 |
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Rep
Joined: Jun 8, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-08 00:57:42 |
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"A forum full of narcissists... Something tells me there will be ZERO progress made here." THIS GUY IS CLEARLY A DOCTOR EVERYONE PAY ATTENTION |
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finallyout
Joined: Jun 17, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-17 09:59:50 |
| Schema therapy is for those with BPD and NPD. See Jeffrey Young's book called Reinventing Your Life. | |
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carebear
Joined: Jun 19, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-19 17:36:51 |
| This is just so interesting to me. I am currently involved with someone I feel has a lot of the traits mentioned prior to me. I have no ties to this person i.e. marriage or children but for some reason feel I have a need to stay to see this thru. I know this sounds crazy and kind of like a fantasy on my part but I am waiting for the day it changes. Sticking around to see the change even tho its already been like 4 years. I got myself into a rut that I am not ready to get out of until I see a change and I am doing nothing but making it bad for me now cause its getting to a point where I feel like I am going crazy. But I CANNOT leave yet I do not like to fail. And I have never in my life dealt with this type of personality and it is just so amazing which may not be the correct word to use here. My confidantes think I am crazy for staying and dealing with it but it is truly teaching me a lot. I have always wanted to be a psychologist and read about it all the time but I have no degree but am trying hard to accomplish what they do. I know I am sad. | |
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Ilse
Joined: Jun 20, '09
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2009-06-20 03:55:31 |
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help01, when reading your first post I immediately realised that your husband has obsessive-compulsive personality disorder. When I read your second post and saw that he was told that by a psychiatrist, I think it's quite clear that's his problem. My mother is like that and she has always been the same. These people do not learn or change. They're self-righteous to the point of being ridiculous. I don't know what to advise you about yourself.. All I can say is that his disorder can (and apparently already DID) affect the children. Having an OCPD parent is so wrecking. This is why I evolved to being a narcissist. |
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heaventhere
Joined: Jun 22, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-22 17:12:13 |
| Sitting here reading these posts, doing the test and just trying to understand it all...someone who loves me very much pointed out I was in fact a narcissist. I was in shock for the first while then felt like a monster in my mind... now just want to find out more about it and how to work on at least controling it if it cant be fixed.. | |
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heaventhere
Joined: Jun 22, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-22 17:14:30 |
| Sitting here reading these posts, doing the test and just trying to understand it all...someone who loves me very much pointed out I was in fact a narcissist. I was in shock for the first while then felt like a monster in my mind... now just want to find out more about it and how to work on at least controling it if it cant be fixed.. | |
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Ilse
Joined: Jun 20, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-24 02:29:42 |
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I don't think being a narcissist automatically labels you as a monster. I'm a narcissist, and whilst I have a dark side and I can be vile sometimes, I'm not as bad as the narcissists everyone loathes and talks about with disgust. It's all got to do with the severity of your disorder. If you're a mild/moderate narcissist, then you have enough self-awareness to understand your disorder and even cure it, without hurting others. |
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DAS
Joined: Jun 27, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-27 17:01:19 |
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Okay, I took the Personality Disorder Test a few minutes ago, like I had done before, but this time, instead of messing around, I answered it as truthfully as I could, and I got these results: Disorder | Rating Paranoid: High Schizoid: Low Schizotypal: Moderate Antisocial: High Borderline: Very High Histrionic: High Narcissistic: High Avoidant: Moderate Dependent: Moderate Obsessive-Compulsive: Moderate And, well, during the test, I came across the question, "Are you often uninterested in the feelings of others?", like everyone else who took it, and I figured out that I really don't care how a lot of people feel a lot of the time, no matter what I'm doing. Like they're insignificant. I do, also cause intentional injury to myself, but not my wrists, just my left arm. And I've also punched myself pretty hard in the face when I was hating myself more than I ever had before. It hurt, but not as much as when I scraped some metal thing that I ripped off a pen along my arm, giving me some small cuts. When they scabbed over, I ripped off the scabs and made then scars. They're hard to see now, though. Only when I get sort of a light glare off my skin I can see them. I'm sort of worried about where I'm headed... |
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WalkingZombie
Joined: Jun 28, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-28 01:49:52 |
| I don't think this test result is right. I got very high in Narcissistic, but I'm not self-centred and I actually have really low self esteem and I don't exaggerate my achievements so people think I'm superior, I exaggerate them so that people actually notice me. These results are all wrong. | |
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lady
Joined: Jun 30, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-30 12:14:31 |
| i think im a narcissist as well, but i dont have regrets about what i do ...say its just how i am. If you cant handle it, stay away. the end. I know this sounds cruel but its just the way i live my life and no i dont have friends, my choice. | |
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Gypzi
Joined: Jul 3, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-03 10:13:20 |
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