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BearMyCross Joined: Sep 17, '10 Status: New User	2010-09-17 12:19:58
	Inmichigan2: Have things gotten any better. I was reading your post from 2009 and I felt like i had written it myself. Are you working now? School? His biz? When i get a chance i'll post my stay hom -go to school - get a job - stay home and be a good wife - go to work you don't ever help me - you think you r so good cuz you have a job you need to stay home and raise the kids - get a job, you were supposed to be smart enough to work story another day... I'm at work right now trying to figure out how to get home (50+ miles away)and pick up the kids, get dinner ready and get them in the tub and check homework while hubby sits in front of the computer patting himself on the back for all his hard work going to work and to the gym to flirt with the ladies. grrrrrrr i think my hubby is bipolar, bpd, AND Narcissistic....
rsped Joined: Oct 2, '10 Status: New User	2010-10-02 07:07:54
	This is my 1st post on this board so I'm definitely the newest of noobs. My father was a narcissist, among other things, & living through his lies & short term relationships wasn't easy. Mental illness is rampant in my paternal side of my family and unfortunately I seem to have many of the same traits as them. I have bipolar depression, which I've struggled with from earliest childhood, narcissism,& mild OCD. I'm 67 & have been on depression meds since early adulthood. My depression has been very well controlled for the past 6 or 7 years. The narcissism continues unabated, however. I apparently have such a low opinion of my self that I feel I have to tell lies constantly about my acheivements. I've lied about my jobs, job performance, my activities, my education, and even my age. Curiously I almost never get caught in these lies. Maybe it's because I'm lying to myself at the same time. I'd like to stop this behavior but at the same time I don't want to "come clean" with any of my past stories. Unlike my father I have no trouble maintaining long term relationships. I 've been seeing a great counselor, the best I've ever had, but my depression has been so non-existant I've not seen her in a couple of years. I really don't know quite what to do. Suggestions will be welcomed.
CosmoAwesmo Joined: Jun 20, '10 Status: Senior User	2010-10-02 16:22:26
	Bipolar I and narcissistic personality disorder are often misdiagnosed w/ one another. You may be on an unsuitable combination of drugs, assuming that you should even be on any at all. Do your own research, form your own conclusions, and bring it up w/ your doc. I'd say that you are truly bipolar I, but your chronic web of lies suggests much more pathology and false grandiosity than meets the eye. That is not simply a healthy dose of narcissism. It may be a product of the mania phase, but if you're on bipolar medication, you're not experiencing mania at all. This points further to pathological narcissism. And as far as maintaining healthy, long-term relationships; if you are on bipolar medication, then you might be in a state where you are bearable enough to exist w/ another. Get off the meds, and things would change. All that being said, I do not mean to doom you w/ the label of narcissist. Certainly, your degree of lying you have described is a huge, red flag. But, as I said, it may be a product of your bipolar disorder's mania phase. If that is the case and you are experiencing highs again, then you'll need to tweak your medication.
LIL BIT Joined: Oct 8, '10 Status: New User	2010-10-08 14:05:38
	I really don't know where to turn right now I need some help ... I was with a man going on 7 months on and off he would tell me he loved me but when I would not do what he wanted he would end it... I moved in with him things were good at first but I cut out all of my friends and some family when I went to a store or wherever I was to call him and check in I was not allowed to wear tank tops or other things out unless he was with me I was never to talk to anyone about us or what was going on with us .. he did not want me to get a job he wanted to be the man and take care of his family ... he would tell me things like I am not a good girlfriend or good mother everthing I did was wrong he would turn everything around on me no matter what ... about a week ago he gave me kiss on my cheek and told me to get out so I did then he calls me to tell me I am living with another man and how he can't handle that but I am staying on my kids dad couch cause I have no place to go ... I ran into him after this and he was with another woman I didnt freak out I was with friends I went the the other way well I guess that made him mad he went up to my friends wanting to know what they were doing with me well it didnt turn out good ... I did not hear anything from him so I gave it a few days and I did text him and tell him I hope he has a good day today ... and he freaks out on me telling me how I have no loyalty to him and cause I was out with my friends ... I dont respond to him then 30 mis later he then tells me he did meet a cool chick and he's going with that .. I say to him I am happy for him then I get a text a pic of him I ask him why he sent that .. he said so it burns in your head ... I dont get it or understand at all can someone please help
1_schizo_grl Joined: Mar 15, '10 Status: Senior User	2010-10-08 14:33:36
	Dump him. :)
ireland Joined: May 1, '10 Status: Senior User	2010-10-08 14:56:25
	Yes,dump him and then dump yourself,then start your life again as if you were a new born babe and relearn everything you thought you knew and everything you were ever told.x
EAVIS Joined: Oct 22, '10 Status: New User	2010-10-22 13:07:33
	Message for David May 2009 entry. You have described my ex partner perfectly. What is hard for me is that I am still in love with him, but his behaviour makes any relationship impossible. Reading you words helped knowing that someone understands. Thank you, Emma
seattleshannon Joined: Oct 22, '10 Status: New User	2010-10-22 21:11:24
	My husband constantly needs to be told (several times within a few hrs) that his garden looks great, his car is shiny/detailed and he is so good. Supposedly, II make bad decisions and he should make all decisions. I work hard but i only make 1/3 of what he makes, so he makes more than me/is better than me. I've never met anyone from his life before I met him (ie his mother, brother, ex-wife or son) yet this is completely normal. I think he is NPD. :Looking for any advice
nbliz Joined: Oct 24, '10 Status: New User	2010-10-24 07:47:36
	narcissistic doesn't become me
narcissisticrage Joined: Oct 30, '10 Status: New User	2010-10-30 06:56:00
	i just wanted everyone to know that i'm super awesome! peace out losers!
drumlinegirl Joined: Nov 8, '10 Status: New User	2010-11-08 22:09:19
	After taking this personality disorder test, I never thought of myself as narcissistic. But looking back at my past friendships, I realize that I do drift away from people. Most of the time without meaning to, but still. I feel ashamed of myself for that.
Walty Joined: Nov 8, '10 Status: New User	2010-11-09 11:17:49
	I'm "moderate" in the personality test when it comes to narcissism. The rest is low or moderate. I've done the test twice, another time it was "high". It's something in between, but surely not to the extent that it's pathological. Still it's quite above the average. Narcissists are 2 types, the inward and the outward one. I'm more of the inward one (the socially insecure person who doesn't speak out about that a lot). I have also some talents, like intelligence and music, it's a nice way to harbour those feelings, it's not on all fronts. Still I'm not ready with discovering all the symptoms and finding a way to deal with them to bring it back to a more "average" level (assuming that society in general is NOT narcissistic in any way... uh hum).
jordan Joined: Nov 18, '10 Status: New User	2010-11-18 18:15:52
	The first part of narcissism is the unwillingness to admit narcissistic behavior. 9 times out of 10, if you can say "I'm a narcissist" then you most definitely are not. I have looked into leading studies, etc. Concerning the disorder, and there really is a lack of study into both narcissism, and how to cope/cure narcissists. There is very little meaingful information out there, that isn't overly vague or general. Good luck with figuring out what's up narcman, but the fact you are looking for help rules out narcissism pretty soundly. I wouldn't change for the world(and that says a lot). There are far worse things to be than an all-around jerk. That's my 2 cents, and I'm out
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