Why am I such a loser?

WannaBeWinner Joined: Jan 11, '10 Status: New User	2010-01-11 00:18:19
	I would like to know if there is a way I could gain some self-confidence and self-esteem. I have two college degrees but am unemployed - my last job was over 10 years ago. I have very poor self-esteem and am convinced that I csnnot do well in a job or that I won't last very long in a job. I am socially very inept and often say / do inappropriate things that come back to bite my butt. I never even realize that I have talked / behaved inappropriately until alerted to this by those around me. I need help. How can I dig myself out of this rut I've got into and get back to leading a productive life (characterized by gainful employment)? Thanks.
thedarkbanshee Joined: Jan 5, '10 Status: Junior User	2010-01-11 00:54:23
	This is why us schizoids are as we are and with you pointing out such things its obvious there is nothing wrong with you. However there is something wrong with people not accepting who you are as a person. To overcome the foolish morons who hate you for who you are you must act for them. Us schizoids do this for a living on and off the job. We appear to become the very thing were not. Its why we appear to be everything were not in every situation. Its also why we know were so superior. If you realize how horrible and hateful those people are towered you for not allowing you to make ends meat to even survive with out being homeless then and only then can you bring yourself to treat them like the trash they are. However instead of treating them like trash treat them like great and wonderful people. In actuality your treating them like trash for lying to them. Showing them a lye that they can never see. This is also why schizoids are precieved as unemotional because most people fail to see our lye to them thus they think we like them so when we socioloze they think we are enjoying ourselves with there presents when in actuality were enjoying the act of our deceptive nature which means were not interested in what soizolation is going on other then to keep up the deception which carry's on to overlook emotional situations especially when we don't care how our victims feel. There emotions are unimportant. If there important enough to pretend were emotional about something we don't actually care about in order to keep our lye to them thats just a mask as well. We don't care about a persons bad day if we don't care about the person to begin with so we don't feel bad about it in front of these people either. Its that simple. WannabeWinner you are a winner thats been cheated and forced to be a loser.
thedarkbanshee Joined: Jan 5, '10 Status: Junior User	2010-01-20 00:47:26
	WOW this went nowhere
Hip Joined: Aug 10, '09 Status: Senior User	2010-01-20 17:03:29
	You think?
thedarkbanshee Joined: Jan 5, '10 Status: Junior User	2010-01-20 23:32:35
	Hip I bet you probably follow my every post just as I have yours.
Delirius Joined: Nov 3, '09 Status: Senior User	2010-01-21 00:00:28
	I'm almost positive he does.
Hip Joined: Aug 10, '09 Status: Senior User	2010-01-21 04:25:41
	It said "Dependent personality disorder, last post: 10 hours ago" when the rest were over a day so I clicked. I dont "follow" anybody's post.
JRjames Joined: Jan 21, '10 Status: New User	2010-01-22 06:56:17
	^^^ ooo sounds like somebody struck a nerve there, it's ok you're not stalking anyone Hip, and no one is being followed.. you can all relax. WannaBe you're problem is confidence and that's it. It's not really a problem; you're imagining feelings of unworthiness and helplessness. Fix you're posture. sit and stand strait, speak louder, and do things mostly all for yourself. Importantly don't be low on yourself, constantly remind youreself that you my man are THE s--- no less than that. You are the god of your own universe and you set your own standards so set them high. Only you decide what's right and wrong, so if you're unsure about something.. say f--- the other guy, YOU are right. By the way in case you've been busy employment isn't looking to hot at the moment so be patient, life is mostly in gradual change. The only thing you arn't doing right is youre lifestyle, quit being a b---- and take care of yourself, rely on yourself, and be youreself. s--- try and go get laid if that's an option, lots of people value that; often much more than they should.
Hip Joined: Aug 10, '09 Status: Senior User	2010-01-22 14:12:23
	Projection. Only your nerves are struck bud, not mine.
Scoutabout Joined: Jan 14, '10 Status: Junior User	2010-01-22 19:55:41
	I'm learning a few things about Asperger's Syndrome. There are many symptoms, but chief among them is great difficulty in social situations - saying and doing inappropriate things, as you've said you've done. Asperger's Syndrome is actually a milder form of Autism. It's possible you may have Asperger's. There are many websites if you want to learn more about this condition.
Hip Joined: Aug 10, '09 Status: Senior User	2010-01-22 20:37:23
	Wow, it learns?
erinro Joined: Nov 13, '09 Status: Senior User	2010-01-22 21:42:55
	I know someone with Asperger's. He has social anxiety but it's a bit different than what this guy describes. He once said to me, like he was divulging this stunning insight, that "it's possible to describe something to somebody and to have them not understand what you meant." Most intelligent 8-year olds know that. Yet he is a very smart guy otherwise. Asperger's people have something wrong with their Theory of Mind. Avoidants just have bad social skills & memories of past social interactions..
Hip Joined: Aug 10, '09 Status: Senior User	2010-01-23 17:17:12
	"He once said to me, like he was divulging this stunning insight, that "it's possible to describe something to somebody and to have them not understand what you meant." !!LOL!! Are you serious?
epiphany Joined: Dec 24, '09 Status: Junior User	2010-01-23 17:23:42
	i love what JRjames has posted.
Obsidian Joined: Jan 22, '10 Status: New User	2010-01-23 17:34:29
	You only have to pick up the mask of the guy you idolize the most, the guy with most self-confidence. Go all out and pretend to be that person until you become that person.
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