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below
Joined: Jun 24, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-24 06:01:44 |
| Well im 25 years old and was dating a 37 year old female with 4 jids. Ages were 18, 16, 12,and 8. At first i didn't want to date her because of that but as time grew i began to love her and her family. I was 22 at the time. To make a long story short we broke up 1 month ago but she began dating a friend of hers 2 weeks after the break up. Its killing me inside i cant stop thinking about her and the kids. i tried to get back with her poring out my feelings to her but as i thought we were about to get back together she woulkd just crush me with saying like u willfind some1 else blah blah. i cant eat and have a hard time sleeping. when i am asleep and my phone rings i run to it hoping its her but it never is. im not a bad looking guy but i just feel like i invested so much time in that relationship is it worth finding another 1. And i also just feel so dam lonely that i want some1 in life to love and spoil but dont want to spend all that time again to just get hurt. in a way its better that were done but i love her. i wish love wasnt tough to get over. but i guess we learn and live. I feel better telling every1 my story i just hope i can get this girl out of my head. Also the kids i miss so much i hate to block them out of my life but seeing them just wants me to get back with there mom. Please pray for me i pray but God doesnt seem to have time for me. thx for reading. | |
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Unanswered Thread: VRIELLIS PLEASE READ posted by Synapse 13 days ago |
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Julie
Joined: Jun 24, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-24 21:22:17 |
| What I am hearing is depression, grief, and low self esteem. But you are very human and we including myself have been there and it is awful. I do understand, but let me tell you this at 25 years old you can rebound alot sooner when you start to realize that by your own admission it needed to end. It doesn't matter how much time you put into it. If it needs to end than don't invest another day of your life in a relationship that isn't right for you. My suggestion get a dog! Unplug the phone, turn off the answering machine, and caller id. You will find it easier not knowing if the phone rang or not. Get into a support group and talk openly about your feelings. Make some plans for your life go to school or etc.. Cry it out if you must be don't go back! You will regret it. Trust me I know what it is like to try to make something work that can't. When it finally ends and it will regardless of how many times you tried. You will be even more heartbroken, and so mad at yourself for not letting go. Be strong it will pass, but not if you don't do something to help you get pass it. Oh and God hasn't forgotten you. Believe me we forget him. You are depressed don't be so hard one yourself nor needy. Dont' allow yourself to be stepped on by this person, or step on yourself. I wish to God I was 25 years old again. But seriously I wouldn't trade my shelter dog for the world. Animals do give so much warmth! and companionship. More importantly they don't screw you over. Also I have met some wonderful people becuase of my dog. Animals help you find caring people. But if you don't have the time nor interest leave the poor doggie where it is. But you sound like an excellent candidate to put the love you have it will help. Do your homework to find the right dog you will be glad you did. I will pray for you. Do not get back with their mom! she has told you how she feels you are simply wasting valuable time. Take care.... | |
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lokisbonita
Joined: Jun 28, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-28 07:15:31 |
| Hi I know what you're going through, and I know its hard.I know that a lot of people tell you to move on and forget about that person that you care so much but people don't understand that we want to do that but we don't know HOW. I turn off my cell phone, erase his email address, but after two days I'm just checking my voicemail and it crush me when I don't have any voicemails from him. I also have a son with him so out of sight out of mind doesn't work with me because I have to communicate with him because of my son. Sometimes they make you feel like if they miss you too and you think that everything is ok and that you're going back together but they're just taking advantage of your feelings and you end up being hurt again. Try to get your mind busy do something that you love to do you have a better chance to get over her trust me if you are strong enough to erase all her information on your phone and you don't see her or be around people that know her and stay away from places that reminding you of her you will fine. Time is your best friend now and remenber the out of sight out of mind can work for you. Good luck, I wish you the best. | |
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IdntCreWhoKnows
Joined: Sep 17, '09
Status: New User |
2009-09-17 18:08:15 |
| Been there, done that and it hurts like hell. It hurts soooo bad and the thought of the one you love being with someone else. OUCHHHH!!! BUT! God has time for you. He really does... I know it may not seem like it but you just keep the faith. See, God may not come through when you want him to, but he's always right on time. You're going to get through this situation and you're gonna look back at it like wow, why did I even let it get to me like that in the first place. And your ex... She's gonna miss you someday... Not everyone wants to date a female with kids, especially as many as she has. And most of the time the man is only there for the mom and could care less about the kids. You, on the other hand accepted her and her package and I guarantee no other man is gonna be there for her like you were. BUt when she comes runnin back, you're gonna be soooo over her. RUB IT IN HER FACE!!! Cheer up! God loves you. :) | |
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cbinzo68
Joined: Oct 23, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-23 03:16:20 |
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below - I can understand your pain. I have recently been divorced from my wife after being together for 16 years. We also have a daughter together. The real kick in the head is that we moved from NY to South Carolina to start a new life. We bought a house - that I didn't want - but we bought it anyway because she wanted it. She found a job and after 6-8 months later, I found out that she and her boss's son were having an affair. You would think I would have realized they were fooling around because she always had to work on the weekends, help him with things, and even bought my daughter and I to his house for cookouts, just so she could be close to him. So now, I'm 40 and stuck in South Carolina, lonely, no family around, hurt and angry. I have tried to meet women but women are not to fond of shorter men(5'1") so I have not had much luck finding a mate. I concentrate a lot on my work and save my money so I can get out of the same town my ex and her new fiance live. I see them all over town together and it drives me crazy! I get so upset sometimes that I think of suicide but then I think how me killing myself would effect my daughter and that stops me. But I wish this empty, hurt feeling would go away!! I wonder if I will ever find someone to care for or will care for me. I think what hurts me the most is that my ex-wife has no guilt or remorse for hurting me so badly. They say time heals all wounds. Well, I hope mine heals faster then normal because my wounds are huge! |
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Unanswered Thread: OCD Bracelet Fund Raiser posted by vbaz 34 days ago |
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