Dependant girlfriend

Synapse Joined: Oct 24, '09 Status: New User	2009-10-28 20:18:17
	How do I deal with her? no matter what i do she demands more pity and attention and gets depressed when i dont play along with her games
Unanswered Thread:    VRIELLIS PLEASE READ posted by Synapse 13 days ago
CrazyGuy Joined: Oct 13, '09 Status: Junior User	2009-10-28 20:22:52
	Play along?
Hip Joined: Aug 10, '09 Status: Senior User	2009-10-28 21:33:03
	^What he said.
CrazyGuy Joined: Oct 13, '09 Status: Junior User	2009-10-28 21:40:26
	Lol dependent people dont get less dependent if you ignore them, theyll just get worse
BendyChick Joined: Oct 28, '09 Status: New User	2009-10-29 12:21:07
	I think she'd be better off without you by the sounds of you comsidering the way you spoke to me.
Synapse Joined: Oct 24, '09 Status: Junior User	2009-10-29 13:06:33
	probably but I'm interested in curing her rather than just humouring her delusions or leaving her
Fatality Joined: Jul 14, '09 Status: Senior User	2009-10-29 13:12:56
	Talk to her about getting help or something for it. Obviously don't jump in at the deep end right away, test the water first, metaphorically speaking.
CrazyGuy Joined: Oct 13, '09 Status: Junior User	2009-10-29 13:41:34
	Has she seen a professional? And is it helping?
Synapse Joined: Oct 24, '09 Status: Junior User	2009-10-29 13:49:32
	no she doesnt realise but its obvious as hell
CrazyGuy Joined: Oct 13, '09 Status: Junior User	2009-10-29 13:52:14
	Well trick her into going then
Pressing Forward Joined: Sep 16, '09 Status: Junior User	2009-10-30 04:42:27
	Dependent people tend to attach themselves to people who will look after them. The dependent person isn’t taking care of the stuff that is their responsibility, but if you do, then you allow them to get worse. The problem here is recognizing what your responsibilities are and not taking up another’s as well. It isn’t cruel to say no to something you don’t want to do. Nor is it cruel to say no to something that isn’t your responsibility to do. The trick is having sound boundaries that help you to see what’s your stuff and what’s theirs.
Unanswered Thread:    OCD Bracelet Fund Raiser posted by vbaz 34 days ago

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