Secretly Seeking Approval.

lunaverde123 Joined: Oct 18, '09 Status: New User	2009-10-18 14:26:12
	The quiz informed me that I have have a high rating for Dependent PD. I am a strong, independent human being. I want to be impressive, excel in studies, work, arts, but none of it is for myself I feel. I do not want a relationship, but I want to be able to come forth to people I meet as a well-rounded and intelligent individual. It bothers me that really I am in constant pursuit of approval while I present myself as completely laid back and unaffected by such 'trivial' things as emotions and attachments. Thus people of the opposite sex enjoy my company, but when it comes to the relationship, I am generally 'the other,' and I enjoy this noncommittal position. At the same time, it gets tiring to always be hiding, sporting a facade, for the sake of pleasing others. I really do, in a maybe 'sick' way, derive immense pleasure from pleasing others, sexually and emotionally, while having little to no desire of having them please me. I do not want them to feel any obligation to me for that would immediately jeopardize this paradoxical equilibrium that exists, in which I want them to think that I want nothing from them and that I only want to give. Only attracted to those members of the opposite sex that are already in committed relationships, I tend to derive pleasure from being the forbidden fruit, the breath of fresh air. Meanwhile, when alone, I am completely different person, needy, obsessive, which I can express to no one; it is repulsive. Worst of all, this is all quite counterproductive to my career goals and personal development.
AussieGal Joined: Oct 24, '09 Status: New User	2009-10-24 06:07:25
	You're clearly extremely intelligent. I think if you look into your heart you know the answers to your questions... facing them is always harder. If you recognise that your thoughts are 'sick'. You are smart enought to know better... x
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