Thread Topic: Did you ever feel suicidal after a break-up?
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Mr X
Joined: Jul 16, '09
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2009-07-16 20:27:12 |
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I felt very suicidal after mine. I was dating her for a year and she breaks up with me for a plain out a--hole. I tried suicide commiting once. My friend stopped me (Sadly he died about 4 months later. He kiled himself ironicly) About two weeks later i have some messed form of justice. The guy she dumped me for broke up with her for her friend. And from what i had heard, he treated her like s---. She begged me to forgive her and to take her back but i pretty much told her f--- off. But to now. I have had yet again some messed up form of justice. I started going out with another girl who has the same first name of my old gf. Messed up justice ftw? |
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inmichigan
Joined: Jul 26, '09
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2009-07-26 07:10:23 |
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After seeing people brain damage themselves or cause permanent injury to themselves, I divert any thought that starts to go suicidal into a reminder of what happens for some of those who try and fail. Instead, I circle my friends and family around me, either in person or by phone, and they are great at being supportive not only during a relationship -- but also through a break-up. I have to get past the embarrassment of 'yet another break up' and trust that they won't judge me -- too harshly. |
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alice
Joined: Jul 19, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-26 09:53:12 |
| Hi Whyme, I’ve only just come on here today, I normally check daily though, just in case. Of course it hurts - what he’s done is terrible and I’m in no doubt that you deserved better. He has been so wrong to behave like this. To go as far as getting engaged to someone whilst being this dishonest is beyond words.. As bad as this is (and I know it terribly hard because of what we have to deal with anyway) it’s as well you’ve found out now. A life with a person as lacking in decency as this would not be a good life. Do you have a friend or family member in whom you feel able to confide? For now, I hope you’ll accept a hug? I’ll keep looking out on here for you, in case you want to talk. Thinking of you xxxxxxx | |
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alice
Joined: Jul 19, '09
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2009-07-26 10:13:22 |
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Hey - don't I feel silly!! Missed the fact that this thread goes over two pages - a sign I was up too late again!! xxxxxxx |
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kyle
Joined: Jul 29, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-29 19:08:19 |
| Almost a year ago I had to break up with my boyfriend because my parents would never let me see him and neither of us were staying very happy. So in order for hm to be happy i broke up with him and said that until i can move out of rents we should see other people or find something to make us happy until then. Well a couple months go by and we go on a trip together and he asks if I want to be friends with benifits and i said no because i dont want our relationship to be just sex. I then later asked him if we were still gonna have a chance to be together when we could and he said no because he just didn't fell the same way. Several times after that if we were alone together he would try to kiss me and it just made me very confused. And recently i come to find out that he says he does not like guys anymore and that it was just a phase. This hurt me alot because all the feelings i had for him were not a phase they were real and it meant something to me, and he's basicaly saaying his feelings were just a phase. But the thing is is i know that he does because he looks at gay p--- and chats with alot of gay guys. So he's most likely in denial and just scared of the way people might think of him, i personaly think that he still has feelings for me. But anywho it's all very stressful to much for someone my age and I know I'm stupid for taking almost a year to still get over him, and I most probably deserve better but i can't get over him. And he just keeps hurting me more and thoughts of suicide happen more and more often I don't think I actualy will try or anything but i am feeling extremely depressed. | |
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lbj
Joined: Aug 9, '09
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2009-08-09 16:35:24 |
| yeah me and my x just broke things off after 7mts we planned to marry etc but things got to where i thought i wasnt good enough 4 her.we had a mutal break up. but now when i try to e-mail or whatever she wont reply its like she never even cared for me and thats the worst part of the whole deal i still love her and cant seem to move on.i feel hopeless anymore cant really deal with the pain!! just need to vent im extremley depress right now..whatever i dont know how to feel anymore | |
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hatemylife
Joined: Aug 16, '09
Status: New User |
2009-08-16 13:37:27 |
| I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 4 years, I love him to pieces, but he goes out constantly with his mates getting drunk and always ditches me, he's sat in a park now wit 2 mates and a random girl afer he told me to leave him alone. i wish i was dead | |
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kireiumi
Joined: Aug 22, '09
Status: New User |
2009-08-22 15:39:52 |
| I'm 14 and I had a boyfriend who was 19 for 3 months. A couple months ago, my mother made me break up with him because of the age difference. He was the only relationship I had ever had because I didn't feel like anyone else was worth dating. At first I was uncomfortable because I was used to rejection and he was very loving, so it was strange, but he helped me get used to the idea. We were also good friends prior to the relationship, so he was obviously very special to me. However, after we stopped dating, he started denying that we were ever together to me and to everyone else. I found out he was using me just because he needed a relationship because he couldn't bear to be single until his crazy ex turned 18 and could cancel her restraining order against him (long story). He had promised her he wouldn't date anyone else until she had him back. When she found out, he insisted I conspired with her to give her a reason to hate him when really she's manipulative and coniving and never really cared about him in the first place. We never have good conversations anymore, we've lost all our friendship. I have constant suicidal thoughts, and he has a common name so I see it everywhere. I feel obsessed but I'm not crazy. I would never be like that. I would never harm him like the typical "crazy ex" would. I just love him so much and probably more than anyone else does, and I feel so worthless and powerless. I hate feeling so out of control. I feel like I'm nothing but his ex now. I feel so insignificant. | |
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everythingless
Joined: Sep 9, '09
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2009-09-09 07:07:26 |
| yes right now i just feel that life is not worth it. i lost my angel i lost my life i lost my happiness after 8 months of perfect living he left me not because he doesn't love me but because according to him this is not our time to love each other... | |
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IdntCreWhoKnows
Joined: Sep 17, '09
Status: New User |
2009-09-17 18:01:10 |
| My ex and I were together for about 3 yrs. During this time we were very close. I think we both clung to each other and basically isolated ourselves from everybody. I'm a lesbian, and 2 females tend to be very close as it is... We did EVERYTHING together...She didn't even want me to work because she wanted to be around me 24/7. When I did get a job she fell into a deep depression. She was bipolar so that didn't make things any better. Anyway, while I was going to work everyday I found out she was talking to her ex behind my back. She claimed it was because she feared that I would leave her for someone on the job. When I found it out I beat her.. .I just lost it. I beat her so bad, got in my car and drove off, but as I thought about it more I got even madder so I turned around and went back to the house and beat her again. By this time blood was everywhere, but I didn't care because I felt like she deserved it. Just as I was about to turn around for the 3rd time the police came and it's a good thing they did because i really do believe I would have killed her. She didn't want to press charges but after the police shine his flashlight on her and saw how severely beaten she was he said that he HAD to take me in. SO I did the whole jail thing.. Got out the next morning, picked up a case of beer, a bottle of vodka and a couple bottles of sleeping pills... I drank all the alcohol and waited until 8:14, which is the month and day of my bday, and I swallowed 2 bottles of sleeping pills. I woke upon the side of the road with the police. Til this day I don't remember even gettng in my car. I must have been sleep driving. The police told me I almost had a head on collision with him and that's why he pulled me over. I don't remember any of that. I only came to my senses when I saw the blue lights in my rear. So I went to jail once again...that made 2 nights in a row. I was just gonna stay in there... I didn't try to call anybody or nothing. BUt my cell mate made me give her my parents contact info and my dad was there the next day... All the way from out of town... I was given a D.U.I. Liscence got suspended for 6 mos... And oh yeah, we got back together. | |
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bkislow
Joined: Sep 23, '09
Status: New User |
2009-09-23 21:34:34 |
| I've been having a hard time recently due to a breakup..the person i was seeing meant the world to me and as it turns out after year..he started to have feelings for someone he worked with..he said that he didnt want to have the feelings and that he needed me..so i decided to take a break thinking that we would be fine..but then he started lying to me about seeing her and i would see her wear his sweatshirt..one that i would always wear..and i was just completely heartbroken because i thought i meant something to him..eventually i decided that breaking up was the right decision..because i couldnt take the lying because i used to be able to trust him with anything..we used to tell each other everything..to go from having the love of my life and my best friend..to having him disappear took a great toll on me..although what he did to me was bad..and i put up with alot from him..i miss him all the time..and sometimes i feel helpless. | |
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bkislow
Joined: Sep 23, '09
Status: New User |
2009-09-23 21:37:14 |
| I've been having a hard time recently due to a breakup..the person i was seeing meant the world to me and as it turns out after year..he started to have feelings for someone he worked with..he said that he didnt want to have the feelings and that he needed me..so i decided to take a break thinking that we would be fine..but then he started lying to me about seeing her and i would see her wear his sweatshirt..one that i would always wear..and i was just completely heartbroken because i thought i meant something to him..eventually i decided that breaking up was the right decision..because i couldnt take the lying because i used to be able to trust him with anything..we used to tell each other everything..to go from having the love of my life and my best friend..to having him disappear took a great toll on me..although what he did to me was bad..and i put up with alot from him..i miss him all the time..and sometimes i feel helpless. | |
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bkislow
Joined: Sep 23, '09
Status: New User |
2009-09-23 21:40:35 |
| I've been having a hard time recently due to a breakup..the person i was seeing meant the world to me and as it turns out after year..he started to have feelings for someone he worked with..he said that he didnt want to have the feelings and that he needed me..so i decided to take a break thinking that we would be fine..but then he started lying to me about seeing her and i would see her wear his sweatshirt..one that i would always wear..and i was just completely heartbroken because i thought i meant something to him..eventually i decided that breaking up was the right decision..because i couldnt take the lying because i used to be able to trust him with anything..we used to tell each other everything..to go from having the love of my life and my best friend..to having him disappear took a great toll on me..although what he did to me was bad..and i put up with alot from him..i miss him all the time..and sometimes i feel helpless. | |
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marylustin
Joined: Nov 28, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-28 17:32:59 |
| i am sad to hear all your stories the only reason being you people are just 14-15 years old. I am 25. I have had 4 boyfriends so far. The 4th one that i am with really loves me beyond any limit/condition. However i have not told him about my first 2 bfs. he only knows about the 3rd one. i feel guilty.but i cant tell him. when i broke up with my 1st bf, thats when i was completely broken. somewhere down in my heart i still wish to be with him. but i love my current bf also. i feel that your first love is the last love. that first experience of love is somethng a woman would never forget in her life. once you get attached to someone, no matter how many ppl come in ur life noone can take the place of that first person | |
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darkemofreak
Joined: Dec 5, '09
Status: New User |
2009-12-05 04:34:03 |
| I'm only 19, but I just recently got out of a 9 month on and off relationship. I was living with a friend and finally felt like I was an adult and could live my life the way I wanted. That's when I ran into him, Ray, now my ex... We had gone to school together and one day ran into each other so I invited him over to my new place to hang out and catch up. I had been single for 3 months and didn't plan on that changing anytime soon. Ray decided to spend the night, which I had no problem with since I didn't plan on anything going anywhere. He had been single for 5 months. Well, I got caught up in the moment of things and gave him my virginity. He told me the next day that he was still in love with his ex and I told him that I wasn't looking for a relationship anyways. A week later, he told me that he was starting to fall for me (i was falling for him too), and that he wanted to try and put his ex behind him and start over fresh. I told him that was understandable and that it was okay if he still loved her, sometimes there's just that one person you can't let go. Well after having gone out for about a month and a half, he breaks up with me at his best friend's birthday party after telling me that he still wanted to be with his ex and that she had told him she wanted to start over. When I asked his ex, she denied it vehemently and I was left feeling heartbroken and utterly confused. I spoke with him the next day about everything that happened and told him that his ex was obviously just toying with his emotions. He told me that he just wanted someone to be there for him and to love him no matter what, I told him that I already did... (after all, I'd given him my virginity....the one thing you can never take back) But that I wasn't going to take him back right away... 2 weeks later we got back together... about a month after the break up, I found out that I was 5 weeks pregnant. He seemed to be so excited and couldn't wait to be a father. His ex had moved on, and it seemed he had too. I couldn't of been happier. Then he started getting insecure and over-protective of me. It was like he was watching every move I made. I understood parts of it (his ex had gotten pregnant and miscarried at 3 months) but there were some parts that just seemed unreasonable. A few of my friends are my ex boyfriends, I've known them since I was probably 8 years old... so I didn't see the harm in remaining friends with them, no-one had ever had that problem before. But Ray started getting jealous, feeling like I paid more attention to them than I did him. He accused me of wanting to sleep with them and still being in love with them. One of the exes I dated for 3 years from 8th grade to the middle of Junior year... After our break-up, I knew I could never love him again and it was a mutual feeling... The love just wasn't there anymore and never would be.... I told Ray this, yet it still seemed like it wasn't enough. Then about another 2 months down the road, (remember I'm 3 months pregnant at this point) I was going to be moving to another city about 20 minutes away. I spent my last weekend with him, and on sunday it was a friend's birthday. I explained to Ray that Friday and Saturday were his day, but that Sunday I wanted to make it all about my friend because he never had a good birthday. My friend Walter didn't know that I was in the area for his birthday as I was supposed to be moving that day... Walter was also a friend of Ray's (I'd met Walter through Ray)... so we went to Walter's place and I surprised him for his birthday. Turns out his day had already started out bad as his best friend whom he thought of as a sister hardly spent 5 minutes with him. I tried to cheer him up and make his day better as best I could, after all it was his day. This angered Ray and he left without telling anyone where he had gone or why... I knew he was mad so I figured he just needed time to cool off and we'd talk when he came back. Well a few hours go by and I start to worry and wonder what happened to Ray... turns out he had decided to go home and mope about the fact that I was spending my day with the birthday boy. This angered me since I had told him that I was going to spend the day with our friend and I didn't understand what the problem was. He told me that he felt like I wanted to spend more time with Walter than with him. I couldn't understand how he had come to this conclusion, after all I had just spent the past two days spending time with no one else but him... It then escalated into a major argument over whether it was unneccessated jealousy or just being protective of me. We decided that we needed to go on a break and think things through. I decided to go back to Walter's and spend the rest of the day with him and not let this affect his birthday... turns out it did anyways... (i told him about the argument). He decided to confront Ray and ask him what it was really about... Ray told him that he didn't like his girl spending time with other guys even though I was 3 months pregnant. Ray and I stayed on break for about 2 weeks, fighting over the jealousy issues and trust. We then decided to put everything behind us and not let other people affect what we had. We both stopped talking to Walter and several other friends that interfered with our relationship. Then another 3 months down the road (at 6 months pregnant) Ray decides to fix his relationship with Walter and put the past behind them. However, I was still not "allowed" to talk to Walter. I thought we had put the whole jealousy thing behind us, yet when Walter came back into Ray's life I couldn't have a part in it. Walter had ended up in a fight once and gotten sort of bruised... I was concerned so I asked if he was okay and how he had been. I hadn't seen Walter in nearly 3 1/2 months since his birthday so I wasn't sure how things were between us. But he laughed and joked around with me like nothing had ever happened, like I hadn't disappeared out of his life at all. It was a simple 5 minute conversation in which I asked how he was and he commented on how big I was getting and asked if the baby was healthy... However, yet again, Ray felt it was as if he was being ignored... (We had just spent 4 days together at my new house, with no one but us and my family) I simply just couldn't understand where the problem lay. Things became uncomfortable for us and we settled into a phase of awkwardness. I became angry and refused to see him for the better part of a month... We decided to end our relationship. A week later, I was back in town visiting with friends and ran into Walter. We started talking once again like nothing had ever happened. We realized that there was a chemistry there that may be more than friends so we decided to give a relationship a try. I didn't want Ray to find out that I had moved on through someone else, (his friend told me he was dating again). I felt that it'd be better if he heard it from me than from someone else. He instantly became angry and started to argue with me. I realized that even though it was a really petty way of showing it, arguing was his way of showing someone that he cared. We decided to give it just one last shot... A week later, I went to give Walter a few things that he had given me back. I asked if he wanted to hang out, since we all agreed we could still be friends... He came to hang out and the arguing and jealousy started with Ray all over again... I was starting to get really frustrated and annoyed by the pettiness of it all, after all I was 7 1/2 months pregnant and I thought I had constantly proven to him that I wanted to be with him more than anyone else. He decided that I didn't care anymore (at that point I wasn't sure I really did anymore, I was just so sick of the fighting) and he ended things. I stayed in touch with Walter and we decided that we didn't really give our relationship a real shot... we've been together for almost two weeks now. However, Ray has decided that he no | |
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