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Olivia
Joined: Sep 25, '09
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2009-09-25 01:32:00 |
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Hi. My husband of two years has DPD. It has created an amazing variety of serious problems, and we are on the verge of divorce. I know that there is little chance in saving this relationship, but I want to get a perspective from others who have DPD. Are people with DPD capable of having deep, perceptive, real, and honest relationships with their partners? Will they ever be able to be ambitious, confident, and take initiative in a way that is genuine to themselves? Thanks. I appreciate your input. |
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Unanswered Thread: What to do?! posted by Jeanine 2 hours ago |
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anna
Joined: Sep 28, '09
Status: New User |
2009-09-28 00:34:48 |
| dear olivia i empathize and understand your situation so well - i have suffered a lot - my husband has dpd and my whole family is suffereing - my children and grandchildren - so please think twice and thrice and get out of this relationship | |
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Alaycat
Joined: Oct 5, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-05 22:24:35 |
| I think its possible. I have it and you know what yes I f---ed up alot, alot alot! but that doent mean Im incapable of loving and genuwinily caring it jsut depends on the invidual does he want to get help and make things better and if he says yes then make sure he follows through give him a black and white rules/ guidelines to follwo you wanna see this and this and this chagne and you will know its changed by this and it might help you seek some help while he is getting help aswell as learnign more about his problems so you know how to support him and take care of yourself at the same time. Don't give up, if its love then try and work through it, however if hes not compliant leave him | |
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Pressing Forward
Joined: Sep 16, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-12 17:27:23 |
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Hi, I believe everyone can grow and actually deep down, I think people want to grow too. However, fear holds so many of us back. I have seen people make genuine changes and grow, but it has taken YEARS. My experience has been that we cannot force people to grow. However, when we start to examine ourselves and try to address problem within us - not them - and take responsibility for the things we do that aren't in accord with our values, and do something about it (e.g. stop reacting in our anger) those around us seem to have a difficult time. Often, they seem try and resist us, or rip us down, even leave us. Or they come on the ride with us. PF |
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Jill
Joined: Oct 14, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-14 16:10:24 |
| After 20 yrs of marriage I think I have finally discovered that this is what my husband has. He is a dear, loving, kind and intelligent man, but seems incapable of having goals, which means if you are happy to make all the life decisons, then you get the life you want, as your husband will support you in achieving those outomes. Sometimes you wish he could think of something by himself, but it only happens occasionally. The downside is that if he really disagrees with you he finds it difficult to express that, and arguments ocurr when with another type of person it would merely be a discussion. Stick with him, and reap the benefits of leading your own life, with a partner - one who will be devestated if you leave him. | |
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Unanswered Thread: VRIELLIS PLEASE READ posted by Synapse 14 days ago |
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