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bebopie
Joined: Nov 1, '10
Status: New User |
2010-11-01 12:27:46 |
| i began at 11 when older brother molested me, followed by mother. then she left me, and at 18 i married, he controlled me, if i didn't do and or behave as he thought i would get beat and so i became whatever it was he wanted. i finally got out of this marriage after 15 years, only to remarry 1 yr later. went on a rampage of sex during that year. i am currently married and he is good to me, but i beleve it will be only a matter of time before i make him hurt me. also, i find that i go between extreme times of being a sexual preditor, another words i start by flurting to know i can work them and then feel bad and tell them i am sorry. i want this to stop. what is wrong with me? i love my husband, he is good to me in all areas. so why do i manipulate people? | |
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Mel
Joined: May 26, '10
Status: Senior User |
2010-11-01 17:35:17 |
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Because you were manipulated and so this is your framework for living. It's familiar to you: it's not what you want, but it's the seed from which you have grown. We all sew the seeds that have been planted within us. Sorry to hear such a sad story. You can change this pattern but you'll need help. I suggest you go and get some professional help to 're-wire' your behaviour. It's one thing knowing this behaviour is bad, but it's quite another in DOING something about it. My guess is that cognitive behaviour therapy, or even solution focused therapy is what the psychologist will try. I'm sure there are a number of other models to treat this condition. Remember...it's only something you have, it's NOT what you are. Good luck. :) |
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