dependant on younger, smarter, alcoholic husband

bugdust38 Joined: Sep 29, '10 Status: New User	2010-09-29 08:58:30
	This is my 2nd marrieage the first one ended in divorce. My new husband is 10 years younger than me. He is very smart, physically fit and confident. He is everything I've ever wanted in a spouse. We have one child. When we dating he cheated with some girl at a bar and with his x-girl friend. Once we got married, he disrespected me constantly in public: starring at other women and ignoring me totally. But whenever I threaten to leave him, he runs out and leaves me. I hate when he does that. He eventually come back and apologizes and I take him back. It's been 9 years now and he is an alcoholic who goes to AA but comes home drunk. He lost his job and depends on hair brain skeems to make money. His parents say I should leave him or let him go. I just can't take the rejection. The last time he left he went straight to the strip club and got drunk. He came back 24 hours later with several girls phone numbers. Why can't I leave this looser?
deblwk Joined: Sep 7, '10 Status: Junior User	2010-09-29 12:39:18
	bugdust38: "why can't I leave this loser?" You said you can't take the rejection. Do you maybe feel like no other guy will Love you or something similar? Being cheated can't help a women's self esteem regarding a new relationship. Also, when you exert power "threaten to leave him" he demoralizes your self esteem worse by running out and leaving you. Not caring enough to bring in income can't be good for your self respect either. You need to be surrounded by people who build you up as much as possible, then get out as fast as you can. Remember your child is learning from his behavior. Someday you may have kids and grand kids in the same situation as you. Get out and brake the pattern. When you get out have a list of friends you can call instead when your tempted to call this guy. Also start reading the book "men who hate women" now. Read it again when your tempted to get back with the guy.
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