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conscious
Joined: Aug 5, '09
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2009-08-05 22:03:16 |
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(moderate: borderline, Narc & Obsessive Comp.) In a highly dependent relationship (of 6 years. At the age of 37 now, it is / was my very first!), seems about to end. My wife describes how she has never met such an emotional man as me. Work issues are my main issue. Always losing jobs and leaving jobs, I get so bored with them and often feel I cant communicate with people well enough. I have a degree, so can study well enough when put my mind into it. I dont concenrate well on what people say to me when describing work duties at length etc.. It always seems I have a falling out with people, even if I don't. I just take everything so much to heart. Hyper Sensitive I guess. Possible ADHD, lots of symptoms seem to match. So I think maybe a lot of personality disorder traits I have may possibly stem from ADHD. I dont make friends easily at all. I have none from the country I have moved to. Just a few old friends from school days. I am getting help but therapist is on holiday right now. I feel really trapped and alone. |
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Unanswered Thread: So many (bad) emotions posted by FadingLights 21 minutes ago |
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lonelyreject
Joined: Aug 11, '09
Status: New User |
2009-08-11 02:20:05 |
| you ever get the feeling people don't understand your problems? like, you get sad or so happy over something and they have no idea why? just wondering, because some of this sounds a bit like me. people will think i'm overly emotional, i get bored of somethings ever so easily, i get in arguments easily, and i can have hard times making friends and such. the world just seems like an ignorant and cruel place, doesn't it. it's very frustrating... though i think i have more anger whereas you have more loneliness and lack of worth... | |
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IdntCreWhoKnows
Joined: Sep 17, '09
Status: New User |
2009-09-17 18:29:08 |
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Here it goes... It's called personality disorder for a reason. It's a part of who you are, it's about your characteristics and I just don't think it can be changed. You can't teach a person who is normally outgoing to become an introvert. And a person who has been not so outgoing all their lives is just not gonna wake up one day and be alll outgoing an confident and running all over the place. I think what most people are looking for is a cure, or a magic pill that just doesn't exist. What we need to focus on is accepting who we are and being okay with it. Nobody's perfect. It may be a struggle, but just know that you are a child of God and God makes NO mistakes. So what we're a little "different" people like us are what makes the world go round. What would life be without challenges. Tell wifey that should should consider herself blessed to have an emotional man. It takes a real man to show his true emotions and still be confident with who he is as a person. I can't hold a job, because as soon as something happens that doesn't go my way I just walk away instead of dealing with it. As of lately I cant even get a job. I've had quite a number of interviews but I'm so timid and shy and nervous that I screw all of em up. People that I don't know intimidate me, but how can I change that. I can coach myself allll day long: ok, don't be nervous, you're gonna get through this, it's gonna be ok,. But as soon as I'm face to face I freeze! I too always have falling outs with people, but I do admit that most of the time it's my fault. I've had some relationships and friendships that could have been rekindled, but once I lose interest I have a hard time getting it back. Just love yourself and remember that it could always be worse. Let me tell you the answers to what you're looking for:God, prayer, faith and patience... Take all that into consideration and I PROMISE everything is gonna be ok. |
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Unanswered Thread: What to do?! posted by Jeanine 5 hours ago |
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