Thread Topic: just to share
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elisafauzana
Joined: Aug 27, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-11-10 00:42:44 |
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at the moment i have a problem..difficulty selling my car.. i got one dealer yesterday, he said i have to leave my car with him, he will settle it when got a buyer..i can't do that because i am migrating in a week..what if he never settles my account? what i can do from far? what if he sells the car at lower price, cash term, so he gets money, while my loan account remains unsettled n i'll be blacklisted? I CANNOT TRUST HIM. he was recommend by an office mate. though he is my office mate, i still CANNOT TRUST HIM..i am actually not close to this office mate..i don't really know him) ok, today, i found another one. they(three guys came to check on my car) agreed to settle it at 23K (cars are damn xpensive in malaysia). they asked for the key to test drive..I CANNOT TRUST THEM, so i never give, they said it's ok.they asked me to go to bank straight tommorow n they will issue a cheque. to my amazement, i still CANNOT TRUST THEM. what if they give a fraud cheque? again today, another office mate recommend (actually i asked for her help) another agent. the agent came to see my car n test drive it n want to bring it to another dealer. again.. i find it DIFFICULT TO TRUST HIM. but since i know this office mate well n the guy left his car at my office, leaving the keys with me n take my car, so though still suspicious, i allowed him. but down deep in my mind, i am thinking, what if he changes my original parts to non? what if he has a duplicate key n come take back his car without my knowledge? but i find himself trusting him a little bit more compared to the earlier one, because he was recommended by my trustworthy office mate. with all this suspicions n difficulty to trust people..HOW ON EARTH AM I SUPPOSED TO SELL MY CAR???? have u guys had ever gone through this kind of situation that u are so much suspicious, u are aware but u can't help it??? GOD! SAVE ME!!! i am so suspicious n cannot trust anyone..i am paranoid all the time that people will cheat me..why? that is how i almost left my husband. i didn't trust him. this difficulty in trusting is ruining my life...but i just can't help it. but come to really think about it.. 1. the first guy...ask me leave the car just like that. so i have reason to be worried. 2. second guys..kinda scared me by attempting to get the keys n surrounded my car a bunch of them n speaking to each other in a language i don't understand n i went there alone n i don't know them.. 3.third one..i can a bit believe him coz i believe my office mate..but he took my car for two hours now.. 4.i never met my husband's family before. my husband is a foreigner in my country. i don't really know him. but ironically i liked him n i married him..though not sure i fell in love with him (i am afraid of getting hurt).it was more as a rebellious act towards my controlling mother..but with current incidences..i trust my husband n i think i love him...(the word think just as a preventive measure so that i don't get hurt...GOD!!) AM I JUST BEING PARANOID FOR NOTHING OR FOR A REASONABLE REASON? AM I BEING RIDICULOUS OR MY PARANOIA HAS A BASE? |
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Unanswered Thread: So which razor/blade posted by Hip 9 hours ago |
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hopscotch
Joined: Sep 8, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-10 03:00:16 |
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maybe if u go in the car when they test drive it? i would be paranoid too, like i always think this stuffs aswell.. you may be paranoid because your mother was so controlling and now your free you dont want to go back to that and your scared any one could be like that.. maybe? |
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fantasy
Joined: Jul 28, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-11-10 11:05:08 |
| I think it's better to be overly paranoid than naive and trusting. Yeah probably they aren't going to scam you but what if they do? It's better to be careful than risk losing a lot. That said, you have to kind of work with your paranoia, lik hopscotch said, going in the car with them when they drive it (and bring someone with you so you don't get kidnapped), solutions like that. IMO it is okay to be paranoid in this case if that leads to caution, not avoidance. | |
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elisafauzana
Joined: Aug 27, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-11-10 17:13:51 |
| thanks, girls. that was really helpful. so i guess, i am being more cautious than being paranoid, but i need to take preventive measures, like u guys said, bring someone along.. and yes, because my mother was controlling too much, i became dumb, she decides everything, now that i am left to think all my own, i am lack of the skill n i am afraid people might take advantage n stuff.. thank you very much.. | |
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elisafauzana
Joined: Aug 27, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-11-17 22:47:26 |
| ok, finally managed to sell off my car, packed my things n migrating today. waiting at airport.. hopefully everything will b fine.. | |
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