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elisafauzana
Joined: Aug 27, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-11-03 19:20:35 |
| i find myself to be lenient..the giving type..i easily sympathize n start giving anything i could to help..not sure i give because i am lenient by nature or just to impress or what else..relly dunno...then by time i will find this person i help is choking me...by being needy...depending on me for everything because i somewhat him/her get used to it...then i will try to run away because i can't take it anymore... | |
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Unanswered Thread: So many (bad) emotions posted by FadingLights 22 minutes ago |
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hopscotch
Joined: Sep 8, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-03 19:48:26 |
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yer i get like that a lot, like im always getting my friends whatever they want, even when im going broke.. and i forgive people a lot, and tell myself its not thier fault or i deserved it or whatever. my friends often get me to shout them lunch now or buy things, saying they will pay me back but they never end up doing it or i say that they dont need to. this sometimes gets me into a really s---ty mood cuz when I actually need something then i cant get it, and i start blaming them and just get extremely b----y, but still continue to get my friends anything i can until my last cent is gone.. then mum yells at me for overspending.. |
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elisafauzana
Joined: Aug 27, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-11-03 19:56:05 |
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yup, that what i meant..i give and that point of time i decided to do so..then when this person will keep on doing it coz he/she will think as myself being "don't mind, she just a kind girl who likes to help", then i'll get this s***th mood, being extremely mad at him/her.. gosh!...another sign to add under bpd? |
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stephie
Joined: Oct 15, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-04 07:02:03 |
| hey guys i soooo get this too. Same thing really. even though i hardly have any money. I like to impress or make sure others have a good time and are alright so i will buy them drinks. It makes me feel furious the naext day. Have no idea why i do it?? i think i've figured that this makes us more vunerable to people.xx | |
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Delirius
Joined: Nov 3, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-04 07:06:35 |
| I do the same thing. Like if we go bowling in a group ill end yp paying for the whole group | |
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racyandy
Joined: Oct 23, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-04 07:28:34 |
| Yeah Elisa, I'm alot like that too. It seems I always have someone sleeping on my couch that i trying to help. More times than not they go back to their old ways and i feel a little used and alot disappointed. Just recently a friend got out of jail and I let them stay with me, It's been almost two months and they are moving out today, getting their own place. It feels good that I was part of helping them. | |
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racyandy
Joined: Oct 23, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-04 07:31:37 |
| The recovery group I am a member makes a big deal about being fully self-supporting thru your own contributions,and most of the people who believe in me and support me in my recovery are like that. | |
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fantasy
Joined: Jul 28, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-04 09:13:30 |
| I don't know about "lenient" I do forgive people very easily, even if they don't apologize directly if they start acting nicer to me it's hard for me to stay mad at someone or something for long. However I'm kind of stingy I never "pay for the whole group" or things like that that you guys have mentioned. | |
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racyandy
Joined: Oct 23, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-04 11:52:40 |
| I forgive people pretty easily too. Maybe its because some of the trauma I've been through I don't sweat the small stuff. I'm generous, but if i see someone is trying to take advantage of me it pisses me off, and I won't let it happen. I'm lucky to relationships in my life thataren't all one sided. It hasn't always been like that though. | |
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Unanswered Thread: What to do?! posted by Jeanine 5 hours ago |
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