Thread Topic: Welcome to the Borderline Forum
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helpafriend
Joined: Jun 10, '09
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2009-06-10 09:27:31 |
| I have a friend who I believe has a personality disorder. I've mentioned to her about seeking help, but she refuses. Does anyone have an idea to get her to some help? | |
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Unanswered Thread: What to do?! posted by Jeanine 1 hour ago |
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weeza29745
Joined: May 17, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-11 19:19:47 |
| helpafriend: ... I don't know. LOOK IT UP ON WIKIHOW. That place is awesome and has something for everything. | |
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helpafriend
Joined: Jun 10, '09
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2009-06-12 09:05:56 |
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thanks weeza29745, I actually emailed the link to take the quiz. I was able to do in a non-obvious way. I'm hoping she takes the quiz to open her eyes at some of the issues she has. I've spoken to her significant other about it, they feel uncomfortable talking about. someone nneds to say something. |
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weeza29745
Joined: May 17, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-13 07:19:02 |
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helpafriend: You're welcome. ^^ It's a hard thing to do, especially without damaging your friendship, but if she sees, she'll thank you in the long run, you know? Take care. |
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weeza29745
Joined: May 17, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-13 07:19:40 |
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helpafriend: You're welcome. ^^ It's a hard thing to do, especially without damaging your friendship, but if she sees, she'll thank you in the long run, you know? Take care. |
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leen55
Joined: Jun 14, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-14 03:03:39 |
| I'm new to this - and apparently borderline and dependent. I don't physically self abuse but take drink and tablets and have very low self-esteem; to the point of thinking if anyone loves me they mustn't be very bright! Or just don't know me | |
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Saddened
Joined: Jun 14, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-14 09:54:00 |
| Hi to everyone, I have resently started cutting myself. I abuse alcohol so I won't feel so bad about myself and it makes me feel worse. I know I'm a Borderline and it scares me because therapy is long and very difficult. At least now I know what's the matter with me! I cut 2 times in the last three days. I isolate myself as I don't feel like talking to others and find them and their little problems annoying. If they had to go through what I have, they would never make it. | |
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weeza29745
Joined: May 17, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-06-14 14:58:20 |
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leen55: The not being smart thing, that's kind of how I think, too... I feel like the people who do supposedly love me don't know how I really am. There are three people I think I'll ever really believe. Saddened: That's what you think. We all do (somewhat). You never know. I wish you luck with your therapy. Take care. |
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cleshe
Joined: Jun 16, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-16 02:25:51 |
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Hi, this is a pretty sad day for me. Here is a bit of my history: I have been to prison for some finacial stuff with my mom. Married divorced , engaged a couple of times. I am an angry person alot for no reason at all. My boyfriend says one little thing and I seem to snap. I get so pissed at him for no reason sometimes but I cant back down because he fights with me back and we both get madder and madder. I told him when we started dating i needed someone who wouldnt back down from me but it was because i have dated so many people that I have just walked all over. I dont cut myself but there is nothing better than getting a new tattoo to release my built up anger and frustrations. I am a little paranoid about things at times. i dont actually like fighting with him but it always seems to happen but really only with him or people that are very close to me. I am like a light switch. I am very good at disasociating everything. I break up with someone and i can forget any feelings I had for them in moments. I can ignore some really hard things in my life like they never happened. I am very black and white. Things are either wonderfull or caving in around me and it always seems like something new is f*@cking up. I am impusive and self loathing at times. I have been a stripper, a bartender, apiercist, a forklift driver and am now a tattoo artist. I am 29 years old. I have lived like this my entire life, today I learned a little about BPD and got curious, concerned and scared. So I researched it. Other than a couple minor details it fit me like a glove. I had him read it (after another little tift mind you) and I think we are over. He said it broke his heart. That in turn broke mine. I looked it up because I want to fix this. I do love him, he is the rainbow after my rain. But everything i have read says people with BPD are not capable of having healthy relationships. Thats one of his issues, the other is where it says people with this issue just forget about people if they leave for long periods of time and just replace them. He is going on tour for two months very soon. (famous front man for a band) So i think I may have just inadvertently ended our relationship. A part of me is sad I think yet I just feel numb. Actually right now i feel pretty f*@cking crazy. What the hell do i do? Is this what is and had been wrong with me for so long? Do I really know how to love? Am I nuts? BTW I love my animals more than people. lol Sorry for the long rant I just need help and a place to vent. |
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weeza29745
Joined: May 17, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-06-16 09:08:47 |
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cleshe: Don't be sorry! That's a difficult situation... Maybe you could talk to him, tell him how much you love him and reassure him that you won't forget about him. You might be able to make it work. I'm in a great relationship that I never thought would happen... My boyfriend is actually the one who keeps me under control most of the time... From hitting people, saying harsh words, hurting myself, etc... I wish you luck... Hope I could help. Take care. |
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DyingToBeNormal
Joined: Jun 10, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-17 01:51:12 |
| I was with a guy I thought... No... Knew I loved. When we broke up, it wasn't even a day before I had moved on an detached myself from him... I'm married now to a wonderful man... He's stuck by me through all my episodes of self harming and depression... We fight too... Alot. And it's usually me who initiates these fights... I have extreme mood swings... One minute everything is perfect and the next I'm boiling over with anger... For no reason... Then just as quick as the anger comes, it's gone... Leaving me confused. I feel crazy because I can't control my emotions... I don't mean I'm over emotional, I mean I can't explain or understand or control my emotions... It's so frustrating. My husband takes the brunt of my rages.... But he's still with me.. I try to cheat on him and I don't know why.. I do love him, yet I'm always hurting him... I too stripped for a while... I've changed my career goals so many times it's ridiculous... Whenever I get close to possibly being happy, I sabotage it... I don't understand it. How can I fix myself when I don't even know who I am? I feel like a piece of s--- who is always gonna hurt themself and those that are closest to me... I have seriously contemplated suicide twice in my lifetime but never followed through... I have days where I know I'm going crazy... I can't explain why I feel that way but it's all I think about sometimes. My grandmother was bipolar and it drove her to insanity... I don't think I'm bipolar, but I do feel that I have BPD and it scares me to death....I'm scared it's going to drive me insane just like my mamaw.... I'm scared I'm gonna end up being a lonely, crazy old lady. I too feel more love for my dog than I do for the people in my life. He's my heart... I also have a terrible habit of creating things to worry about... I am in constant fear of impending danger.... Danger that's not there. I walk around all day when the feeling that something bad is gonna happen. I constantly question everything... I can't accept anything as the truth, there's always something that makes me ask questions. Like for example, my husband. He has been my knight in shineing honor, and he's never steared me wrong, yet I question everything he does. I constantly question his love for me although he's beyond proved he does love me... I call his integrity into question all the time. Everythme we fight it turns into a knock down drag out.... Over nothing usually. It's either he loves me or he hates me, I see no grey... Just black and white. I recently got the courage to tell my daddy that his nephew repeatedly raped me when I was 10 to 13 yrs old. You know what he did? NOTHING! No tears, no apology for not seeing what was going on... He just looked at me, like I was lying... But he does believe me know... And whst does he do? NOTHING! Not an ounce of emotion, no anger. Call it weord but all i wanted all i needex from him was anger. I needed to see my daddy so maf at my cousin that i had to beg him not to go kill him.... I just needed my daddy to be a daddy! Because the ONLY reason i nevet told my dad is because i convincec myself that if he knew, he'd kill mt cousin and be in prison... Now that ive told him and he did and said nothing... My entire belief of what kind of man my daddy is, is shatteterd. Now i question everyone that is close to me. I question their love me. I constantly doubt that any of them truly care for me... I feel extremely alone because the one person i grew up admiring, is nothing but a lame excuse for a man and a father...Ever since then, I see nothing when I look at him. I feel nothing for him either. I can't see my daddy anymore, just a man who is a lie. He was a good dad my whole life, but none of it matters. Because of what he did, I hate him... I can't get past it... Am I expecting too much for him? I always assumed the normal reaction a father would have in that situation was uncontrollable rage???? I'm not a parent, but I think it's safe to say if I had a child who was abused, I would stop at nothing until the person that abused them had paid for their sins.... I in no way want my dad to kill my cousin, that won't change what happened, but for God's sake at least act like it hurts you and angers you beyond your control!!!!!! Welll that rant was nice.... It's amazing what a relief it is to finally say that.... These forums are the best therapy I've ever had..... | |
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saygoodbye
Joined: Jun 17, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-17 21:17:25 |
| I was diognosed with BPD a couple of years back. I was in denial as I always have been, but I knew the doctor was right. The symptoms, the information- it all just related to me so well I felt I had an understanding of why I am how I am, it finally pieced the puzzle together, so I thought. It is a hard thing to live with, I have been on numorous medications for it, and being previously diognosed with several disorders over the years, I was growing old and mentally sick of it (I felt like a lab rat) I haven't seen a doctor or been on medication for nearly 2 years. I think its time I get the right medication, because my life is no life wothout stablity. Good luck to the people that have it. 'Walking on Egg Shells' is a good book, take a look at it, it does give good advice. It helps you to deal with this life-long sickness. | |
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weeza29745
Joined: May 17, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-06-17 21:41:50 |
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DyingToBeNormal: I feel so bad... I've heard of one thing you're talking about, how you can love someone so much, but push them away all the time... Sucks, and hurts. So bad. And about your father. I couldn't believe he wouldn't do anything, say anything. =( I'm glad you got it off your chest. Take care. |
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saygoodbye
Joined: Jun 17, '09
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2009-06-17 21:51:02 |
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Reading a few of these posts made me thing someone could give me some advice on what to do. My life has been like a rollercoaster the 19 years I have been alive. I am one to have bursts of anger, but only towards my mother, I never understood why. If anything goes wrong in my life, I blame my mum. For example everything seemed to be going so well today, then BAM I explode in to a huge screaming match with my mother over something pathetic. I don't want to, but no matter how I try or what ever tecnique I try and use, its like I forget the next day. I have apologised so many times to her. I tell her I don't want to be like this, and that i am sorry and I will try, but it just rounds back to the same usual day. My life always is all over the place. Things go ok for say a week, everything running perfect, but it just crumbles.. I don't know why, but it does. I feel like there is no point in going on anymore, I seem to ruin everyones life around me, when I don't want to. I hate the person I am. I have been to over 20 doctors of all sorts, been tested for disorders. The so many. Different doctors dignoses, from bipoloer to ODD, now BPD. I feel that they finally can help me, but it doesn't work. No matter what drug I take, what doctor I see it doesn't work, to the point I want. I have been in and out of hospitals since I was 11 (I overdosed) what 11 year old overdoses! I have lost so many friends, fallen out with family, quit every job I have had, turned to smoking, drugs and alcohol, was close to death, been in pshyc wards, got scars all down my arm from self harm and every relationship I get into I end, and forget them like straight away. My life has always been all over the place from a young age, my dad commit suicide, the family I was close to died, bullied at school. I wish someone could understand me for once :(! I'm young I have my life still to live, but I don't know how to live a normal life, or how to get there with BPD.. or whatever. I really want some true advice, please help! |
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trayken
Joined: Jun 17, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-18 01:25:31 |
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although ive been diagnosed with having border line personality disorder ,and two other disorders , I decided to take this test anyway and ranked high and very high on all the personality types except 1. First, I would like to say i wish the very best for all of you out there struggling with having BPD, or any other personality disorder . When I was 18 ,I was diagnosed with BPD, and i was hospitalised. The doctors that took care of me put me on several different meds, I had to attend psycho therapy, wich only got me more angry, and the DBT program. I am now 28 years old, married ,and have three amazing children . I still cannot control myself, especially my anger, but I am doing better. I try every day to live my life one day at a time. Some days, every minute counts cause it could all be taken from me. I would like to end this with; A blade of grass will only grow a days worth in one day . God bless |
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