Thread Topic: keep forgetting
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elisafauzana
Joined: Aug 27, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-09-08 19:20:57 |
| i find myself keep forgetting my past events, eventhough not all, but i tend to forget most of it, like my previous friends, not the close ones but those who i just know and not so close. i also tend to forget what others do to me, whether they have done kindness or evilness to me. when this happens, when someone ask me or confront me why u like or hate this particular person, i wouldn't know how to answer. i won't be able to defense the person i like or defense myself from accurately give reasons why i hate the person i hate. i will just go panic when people confront me with these kind of things and i'll just give up and let people decide for me who is good and who is bad.does this happen to u guys too? | |
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elisafauzana
Joined: Aug 27, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-09-08 19:31:39 |
| like i know for sure my mother is bad and my husband is good. but when my brothers and sisters confront me why u want to follow your husband and not your own mother, i just go panic and give up and let them decide what i am supposed to do. i hurt my husband a lot by doing that. when things go bizzarre, the people who decided for me won't take responsibility. instead they will just say "it was your call. u decided like this. we didn't force you." it will leave me hurt and sad and guilty and feel stupid and angry, all at the same time and will do anything to hurt those people back, by hook or by crook and will feel satisfied after i managed to. eventhough at that point of time, i have already lost everything i am supposed to get results from of my irrational decision, which was decided by somebody else for me. does this happens to you guys too? | |
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fantasy
Joined: Jul 28, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-09-09 13:08:57 |
| I do forget past events and people, but I tend to only forget the bad things, which I think is normal. I don't know why you forget things but maybe it is to deal with the stress that the memories bring? Clearly you've been having a lot of problems with your inability to make decisions for yourself and assert your opinion ... I have never had that problem (I'm pretty argumentive actually) so I can't really empathize but I can see how much pain it brings you, I don't know how to fix it but start by talking to someone you trust, like your husband maybe. Tell him how you feel, just like you told us here. They can help more than you think. Sorry if I wasn't much help :( | |
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elisafauzana
Joined: Aug 27, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-09-09 23:37:11 |
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thanks, fantasy. u have been a help by giving me good advises. well, now i have totally diassociated myself from my mother, brothers and sisters because i feel they have ruined my life. but i actually know it was my indecision and "go panic when people confront me" thing has lead to current condition. and i find it difficult to consider both my husband side and my mother side together, because they oppose each other and i have to choose only one. because of my panic attack and uncertainty and being able to be easily influenced, i feel the best thing for me to do is stay with my husband and forget the others. i have tried to impress my mother, but she only keep on making me panic and hurt. i guess i have stay away from her in order to get apeaceful life. |
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