I fall in love with everyone except those who really love me

motorglam Joined: Apr 19, '10 Status: New User	2010-04-19 23:30:46
	I must be borderline. I've never talked to a professional but I've taken several tests online... This is how I act. - I fall in love with people I don't even know but if they truly like/love me I hurt them. I totaly lose interest and hurt them. This is usually after a few months of building up their hopes and making them like me. Then it's like there is a point where I just know I don't want to be in the relationship anymore and just leave. But if the person I'm with is not really that into me but kind of just along for the ride for a little while I pick up on it and I get obsessed on why they don't really want me. I hate being like this but I'm scared to tell people that I'm not normal. I just want to know can most borderlines put these feeling aside because I was just with a guy for only a short period of time but I found him to be very much like myself. He told me he was in love with 3 girls and he fell in love with them very fast all of the girls he was ever with hurt him and now that I have put my feelings out there he has hurt me but the way he went about it reminded me so much of myself and how I am. There was such a huge build up in only a few short weeks, and things felt pretty equal but now that we broke up there is such a weirdness and even though i expected that I again think back to myself and my own feelings in similar situations and know that i want nothing to do with the person and hated even seeing them after the break up. IT's like it irritated me, and i feel like i'm getting the same impression from him, but there is not way i can avoid him because we work together. I just want some advice, but quitting my job is out of the question. Please help.
emo cutie Joined: Mar 7, '10 Status: Junior User	2010-04-20 05:37:10
	idk wut 2 say
nicky550 Joined: Apr 20, '10 Status: New User	2010-04-20 16:53:13
	I am very like you.. I get fed up of trying..I always seem to hurt people, and also get s--- one too.. I'm a B.P.D. TO..
rainbowLove Joined: Apr 24, '10 Status: New User	2010-04-25 13:38:29
	I create obstacles for myself. Multiple things happening at a time. Flirting with one person. Going on dates with another. Toying with someone else. Then completely falling for someone who could care less. I toy with those who are closest to me. Those who I'm connected to. Trying to get away with it. Always feel loved and adored. But then hate myself. I get so frustrated if they don't make time for me. N I don't even have any interest for them. Yet I put myself in this situation where I sacrifice so much for a person who is doing the exact same to me. Just toying with me. I lead people on. Then shut them out. Then drag them back in again.
hush36 Joined: Apr 26, '10 Status: New User	2010-04-26 05:37:52
	Motorglam, I did that for years, with many different girls... because I couldn't seem to avoid it, I decided to halt all relationships. Over 10 years now.
PurpleTulips Joined: Apr 27, '10 Status: New User	2010-04-27 22:01:20
	My ex-girlfriend once said to me "You are a cold-hearted defensive b---- and no one knows how to deal with you. We never know when we're making you happy or not." I wanted to punch her in the face because I knew she was right. Want to know how I'm trying to fix it? Dating my best-guy friend and trying to make myself love him. Want to know how its going? I started cutting again because I f-ing hate him. hush36, I tried that whole staying out of a relationship thing. It didn't work for me because I crave touch, how do you do it? motorglam, tell him if he has a problem with you he needs to deal with it at a different time because you're co-workers and his attitude is getting in the way.
ShudaCudaMitaBen Joined: Apr 27, '10 Status: New User	2010-04-27 23:50:00
	When I was younger all I was interested in was sex and threw away any number of possible good relationships with girls most guys would give anything to have. When I did finally want to settle down it never did work out. I've been married 3 times and filed for divorce each time when I caught them being unfaithful. I always worked and did what I felt was necessary to keep things afloat but was probably too controlling. I loved each of my wives and took care of them but things just never seemed to work out. I've finally come to the conclusion that I'm just no good at relationships and have decided it best if I just spend the rest of my life alone. I don't look forward to spending the rest of my life alone and dying alone, but that's what I'm looking at. It's probably best for all concerned...
rynojenks Joined: Apr 28, '10 Status: New User	2010-04-28 09:38:20
	My girlfriend cares for me more than any one other person in the world, and i can never treat her how i want to because i'm always unhappy. she says she hates how she can never make me happy, or proud. she thinks maybe someone else could. maybe someone could, but it probably wouldn't last. i love my gf, and i want to make it last, but i'm fearful
sneaking Joined: Apr 28, '10 Status: New User	2010-04-28 13:19:30
	Motorglam - not sure if this will help, but maybe there is hope... How old are you? I'm nearly 30 and I spent a long time like you - people really did think I was a b----, like I did it on purpose. Then one day I finally had a very long term relationship. This guy was great and like my best friend. At first I was VERY jealous but then I started being unfaithful to him and I just couldn't stop. After 6 years and with a wedding paid for and the date close, he found out. It was a blessing really because it should have ended long before, but during the break up I got together with my current husband. And it has been normal. Beautiful, wonderful (although not necessarily peaceful) normal. I don't know what the future holds or if it will last, but I want you to know that you shouldn't despair, because it can happen... I'm not saying it won't end bad but i don't care if it does because it make me feel more normal than i ever have in my life.
lextacee Joined: Apr 5, '10 Status: Junior User	2010-05-02 13:03:09
	this is EXACTLY what i do... and i've been doing iit for almost 3years.... it makes me happy for a few days but after ijust pretty much shut down wand realize how much of a sstupid bittch i am and then i find another guy(s) and the cycle starts all over again..
Ally9 Joined: May 6, '10 Status: New User	2010-05-06 18:47:30
	my relationship patterns are just like that. i date a boy, a fall in love with him but i convince myself that he's not really important to me partly because i don't want to be affected if we should ever break up-which we usually do a couple of times until we finally break up for good. then i want him back but i have already done enough damage so i have to move on to another guy all the while still liking the last one and the same thing always happens. i start fights for no real reason, i make them mad, and i get really frustrated if they don't pay attention to me ALL THE TIME. also, i tend to only date the ones that really like me alot or totally adore me because that way it makes me feel somewhat in control of the relationship. sometimes i really don't mean to but i manipulate situations, start fights, and make my boyfriend really miserable. sometimes i DO mean it. but when we break up for good, i always feel guilty because i know i was being unfair & that i drove him away and then i really want him back but i know he hates me so i just keep dating guys & it's like an ongoing cycle i really wanna break. i think i really do need help because although i could never really hurt myself like the cutting...etc my relationship patterns are the same when it comes to my friends and i am constantly hurting people because of frustrations i have inside that i don't know how to handle. its driving me crazy!
Ally9 Joined: May 6, '10 Status: New User	2010-05-06 18:48:54
	my relationship patterns are just like that. i date a boy, a fall in love with him but i convince myself that he's not really important to me partly because i don't want to be affected if we should ever break up-which we usually do a couple of times until we finally break up for good. then i want him back but i have already done enough damage so i have to move on to another guy all the while still liking the last one and the same thing always happens. i start fights for no real reason, i make them mad, and i get really frustrated if they don't pay attention to me ALL THE TIME. also, i tend to only date the ones that really like me alot or totally adore me because that way it makes me feel somewhat in control of the relationship. sometimes i really don't mean to but i manipulate situations, start fights, and make my boyfriend really miserable. sometimes i DO mean it. but when we break up for good, i always feel guilty because i know i was being unfair & that i drove him away and then i really want him back but i know he hates me so i just keep dating guys & it's like an ongoing cycle i really wanna break. i think i really do need help because although i could never really hurt myself like the cutting...etc my relationship patterns are the same when it comes to my friends and i am constantly hurting people because of frustrations i have inside that i don't know how to handle. its driving me crazy!
alone Joined: Nov 2, '09 Status: Junior User	2010-05-06 20:15:31
	I don't believe in love. Relationships fall apart all the time. They have their run, but then they fail. Nothing last forever.
SLEEDYHAL Joined: Jul 24, '10 Status: New User	2010-07-24 22:03:37
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Shawn Joined: Jun 11, '10 Status: New User	2010-07-25 16:07:49
	I can relate to all this mein I thought I was the only one!! I always end up falling for the ones that just doesn't want to date me then I get obsessed with figuring out how I can get them to love me!!Then if it doesn't work I live in misery caz I am forced to leave them alone. Trust me leaving them alone is the hardest part but I do it because I don't want anyone to think something is wrong with me. Inside I die and it chips away at my soul everytime it happens and it happens a lot.....I really don't know what is wrong with me!!!
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