Thread Topic: How does one avoidant reach out to another?
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mugatu5000
Joined: Oct 22, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-14 23:59:53 |
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This is a completely hypothetical situation... seeing as I'd never have the courage to do. Hell, approaching normal people is hard enough. How do you approach someone like this correctly without embarassing yourself and the other person? I've had a lot of time to really look at myself and notice "things." Whenever I step into a room with a group of people, my mind automatically goes on a search for another avoidant who's secretly hiding, like me. I don't know why I do this but I think it would just make me feel so much better to know I'm not secretly alone. Anyway, I'm at college right now and it's a saturday night and god do I hate the weekends. I do my best to avoid the drunken parties and loud social gatherings. In fact, I'm writing this thread on one of the library computers despite the fact that I have a fully functional computer in my room. But I'm avoiding them like I said. So, I've also noticed this girl who is here real late at nights. I've seen her a good number of times to make me wonder if she too is avoiding something. Firstly, she doesn't seem to be preoccupied with work. Like, she doesn't have any papers out. Secondly, she's always "working" on the computer alone. She also wears this tacky, blue winter jacket. Believe me, I don't care much for fashion, but it just stands out to me. What I think is that her father or mother bought her that jacket because she was too scared to go shopping for a jacket herself. Something an avoidant like me has felt sometimes before; dreading the shopping scene. Most girls her age relish on meaningless crap like buying a fashionable winter jacket, and not a tacky one like hers. Also, her hair is kind of grungy. Almost messy, as if from immediately getting out of bed without taking the time to style it and thus avoiding the chance of being faced with an early morning encounter with one of her roommates. Also, it could just represent her lack of self-esteem. And lastly, when I past the computer she was "working" on, I slyly focused my gaze on her screen. What it appeared to be was some kind forum, kind of like this silly forum thing. Was she also seeking advice from similar sites like this? So what do you guys think? Do you think she qualifies as avoidant? Should I like do something? Or maybe it's all coincidental? Maybe she just doesn't have a computer. |
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Unanswered Thread: So which razor/blade posted by Hip 12 hours ago |
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Delirius
Joined: Nov 3, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-15 23:42:38 |
| Try to see what forum she's on. If its a forum, then use it lol. | |
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voldo
Joined: Nov 15, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-19 09:58:08 |
| She might be avoidant, or you might just be in love with her. Probably the latter. You will never know if you don't talk to her..and if your like me you never will. | |
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Unanswered Thread: shyness is ruining my life posted by paul1984 18 hours ago |
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