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Jeanine
Joined: Nov 2, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-10 11:40:40 |
| How do i make friends? I.e. Friendship for dummies. Thanx | |
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Unanswered Thread: No Subject posted by alwaysknew 13 hours ago |
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Delirius
Joined: Nov 3, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-10 11:51:44 |
| The best way is to talk to them, i know its stupid but people who dont have many friends are the people who dont talk to other people or ignore other people's existence | |
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Jeanine
Joined: Nov 2, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-10 20:13:52 |
| Ill talk to them, when can i invite them to my house and vica versa? | |
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Delirius
Joined: Nov 3, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-10 20:31:31 |
| Whenever you want just don't be creepy lol | |
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disorderguy
Joined: May 5, '09
Status: Admin |
2009-11-10 20:34:34 |
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I think what Jeanine is saying is... it's one thing to say "hello" or make small talk with other people. But specifically how do you take it to the next level and become friends outside whatever context you know this person in? Sorry for speaking for you, Jeanine. |
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Delirius
Joined: Nov 3, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-10 20:59:45 |
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You can't force friendship. It naturally evolves. If you try to force it you'll seem like your a stalke |
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Jeanine
Joined: Nov 2, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-11 02:37:29 |
| No prob disorderguy thats exactly my problem. I dont have a clue. I can do the small talk bt then i stop.and then i dnt know what to do or say next. | |
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Delirius
Joined: Nov 3, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-11-11 09:37:51 |
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If you already have they daily conversations then you have "friends" now all you have to do is invite them to some event like a football game or see if you can tag along. When I started at my new school 4 years ago I had no friends for the first month in, I didn't talk to anyone. Then two girls came over and started talking to me at lunch cause I had every single class with them. They invited me to sit with them at lunch and I accepted. Every friendship I have now stemmed out of that and one of the girls is my best friend. |
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observer
Joined: Nov 19, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-19 13:38:49 |
| Maybe you could join a group that matches one of your existing hobbies, or maybe even a new hobby. If you get involved in a sports team, choir, gym class, walking group or whatever, then first you can chat with someone in the group about whatever activity you are doing together, and you can relax a bit because you don't need to think up a creative topic of conversation. Then after a few weeks you can say to that person, "Hey, do you want to jog together next Tuesday?" or "Do you want to go check out that concert?" and it comes out as a natural extension of the conversations you've been having beforehand. It's a pretty low-key method of getting to know people better. | |
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