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Crimson King
Joined: Oct 13, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-13 16:49:19 |
| I don't know what to do. In the summer, I met this really nice girl. We talked for a while, and I asked her for her phone number. Two weeks after school started(I'm 17 btw) I called her, and she said that she was hanging out with a friend, so it wasn't a good time to talk(or something like that). I asked her what she was up to(right after she told me that she was hanging out with a friend) and she replied that she was hanging out with her friend(and she said it in a sort of happyish voice). When I called her earlier in the summer, I always got the answering machine(I called about 7 times in one week, but never called any more that summer, until I called her when school started again). When I met her at school the next day, she was surrounded by friends(as usual, this was nothing new), and I said "hi" and "what are you up to?". She just left with her friends(as usual), and didn't answer to anything but the hi. I haven't tried contacting her since(its been about 2 weeks now), and am sort of depressed by the outcome. What did I do wrong, and how can I overcome this depression? | |
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Unanswered Thread: What to do?! posted by Jeanine 4 hours ago |
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ekahamsa
Joined: Sep 19, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-13 19:05:02 |
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best not to take the ignorance of other people as an insult to yourself. people are f---le & you should try to just let it go & move on. i know its easy said but if you take harm so easily in a mild encounter you could be setting yourself up for major harm in a more serious relationship. i know myself i get a bit obsessed with a person if i like them, but i had to learn to put up barriers to stop myself getting hurt, probably not the best way of dealing with it but thats me. i think you can overcome the depression by looking at it lightheartedly, when your young theres many more opportunities & to get hung up on one could lessen the chances of having more pleasant opportunities in the future. |
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ekahamsa
Joined: Sep 19, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-13 19:06:07 |
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huh! it bleeped out my word -_- i only said f i c k l e. |
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Crimson King
Joined: Oct 13, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-13 20:50:21 |
| What do you think I did wrong in this situation(if anything)? And thanks for the advise, I'll try my best to follow it. | |
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thewanderer
Joined: Oct 26, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-28 00:30:13 |
| You probably did nothing wrong. She is probably just your average teenage girl - more concerned with popularity and yadda yadda. You could be the best guy ever but she won't/doesn't have to acknowledge you. Just let it go. Try not to take yourself seriously. There are tons of other females out there that are nice to look at AND actually have whole conversations with. Also, try avoiding the popularity contest girls - you know, the Mean Girls "plastic" type. Also, avoid promiscuous girls: You seem like a nice guy and girls that are promiscuous love to devour and spit-out nice guys. Really, just forget about her and go forward with your life. You are too young to be stressing out about this stuff. | |
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disorderguy
Joined: May 5, '09
Status: Admin |
2009-10-28 07:54:47 |
| Sorry ekahamsa, must be a glitch in the curse word filter! | |
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CrazyGuy
Joined: Oct 13, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-10-28 13:00:50 |
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Teenage girls are stupid. Good rules though: two day rule wait two days after you get their number to talk to them rule two if your talking to someone a lot and want to know if they like you dont text them for a day or two and see if they text you back(not a sure method) Ive learned all of these through friends telling me what to do and they seem to work out nicely. |
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Fatality
Joined: Jul 14, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-10-28 13:33:55 |
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"rule two if your talking to someone a lot and want to know if they like you dont text them for a day or two and see if they text you back(not a sure method)" If they don't and ask why you didn't text them, you'd better have an excuse :p |
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CrazyGuy
Joined: Oct 13, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-10-28 13:35:32 |
| Well if they ask you that then you know they like you, and you just say your sorry and that you were really busy. | |
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Fatality
Joined: Jul 14, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-10-28 13:39:36 |
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I knew that of course, I was, uhhh, just seeing if you did! Honest. |
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CrazyGuy
Joined: Oct 13, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-10-28 13:41:02 |
| Haha ok yea i do | |
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sliva
Joined: Oct 31, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-31 03:30:50 |
| People are different the purposes of communications differ too and the things you value others don'e value at all. What happened with you and that girl? You and that girl were moving not in the same directions. She needs to get all attention from everyone at the present moment you need deeper relationships for friendship or for dating (i don't know). That's all. That's why you didn't manage to get to he. Next time don't call up to much to girls :) firstly try to get their response and understanding the purpose of their communications. But it doesn't mean that something wtong is with you. It's just some laws of life. Keep your chin up. | |
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sliva
Joined: Oct 31, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-31 03:40:21 |
| I hope you will excuse my misprints :) | |
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walrus
Joined: Nov 14, '09
Status: New User |
2009-11-14 00:26:10 |
| I think you came into contact with what my male friend calls a 'she-devil'. dont bother with them! they will only cause you future grief, as my friend discovered to his cost. you made an effort, which is more than some, so try and take it lightly :) | |