Thread Topic: i'm alone
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sharpcapser
Joined: Sep 27, '09
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2009-09-27 20:32:04 |
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I am a guy.I am often leaving social events early. People seem to have a hard time remembering my name even when i have spent significant time with them. I am in college known for its dating and though i have tried have not gotten a single girl to go on a single date with me. I have never kissed a girl even though i am almost 19. I don't know why but even when it is just me and a girl i am the only one who tries to initiate conversation. Which normally only gets me a brief answer and the another awkward silence follows till i say something else. I normally make good friends with guys until we start hanging out with girls. Then they just stop inviting me to things. I go to church and go to every dance and social activity available yet still no close friends. I don't even know what i expect to get out of posting here but i have just left another social event that involved finding a girl partner and doing certain games with them. No one wanted to be my partner so i left. |
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So_Confused
Joined: Sep 27, '09
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2009-09-27 20:36:21 |
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i read your story. im sorry to hear that. You seem like i really cool guy, you just dont know what to do around girls ... Try being confident ! =] take control of he sitution ... |
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wowu
Joined: Sep 30, '09
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2009-10-06 00:53:16 |
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I know it won't help but I have read about the guy who was haveing problems about women in particular, and with shyness in general. So he made himself to go to the park and he was attempting to talk to every girl he had met. He haven't made any friends nor went on a date with any of them but he overcame his shyness. I think the key is that when you try talking to someone totaly unnknown and see that you are accepted. And even in the minor situations when the other person isn't nice to you - you can overcome it. Anyway - I guess trying some counselling is as well a bad idea for you? Good luck to you. Maybe you will find someone special to whom you will open up and realize that there is nothing wrong with you. Just a bit of anxiety. Oh, and - these are just my loosen thoughts, do not treat that seriously |
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ahocur
Joined: Oct 7, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-07 18:39:01 |
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Hey... Hi =) Im a girl you know.. and i think i would like you.. you seem like a really nice person. But also.. I seem to have the exact same 'problems' that you have... I haved kissed guys before.. but i was like 10years old and it was a challenge to the other person =( .. I am 18years old and.. I write you, so that you can see you're not alone =) Hope you find someone in your life! |
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fantasy
Joined: Jul 28, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-10-08 09:46:50 |
| It's amazing, I have the same problem as you. I'm a 17 yr old girl and whenever I try to talk to a guy they seem like not interested and answer yes, no, mhm, sure all the time, then I finally get mad and I leave cuz I'm like, okay obviously you dont want to talk. I've never met a guy who's interested in me for non sexual reasons so yeah. its sad | |
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wowu
Joined: Sep 30, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-10-08 11:49:54 |
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but why do you not suspect that this other persons you are trying to talk to is as well shy, afraid of how you would judge him/her ? I cannot talk in any interesting manner with nobody I haven't be with for some time. I need a lot of time to overcome my shyness and open up a bit, so do not give up other people just like that. |
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fantasy
Joined: Jul 28, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-10-08 13:02:13 |
| I tried to think that at first. But it is so obviously contrasting when I see them with other people. its kind of obvious how they think talking to me is boring. duno how to describe | |
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ahocur
Joined: Oct 7, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-08 18:27:28 |
| yes.. been there.. u_u | |
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mariana
Joined: Oct 10, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-10 20:40:43 |
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Hi :) I'm 19, too (I'm a girl) and I know how you feel. I'm in college and I feel like I'm getting nothing out of the "college experience" because I'm too afraid to talk to people. And it's only gotten worse since I transferred schools - I literally have no friends here. I've joined clubs and stuff, but the people I talk to are just acquaintances. And I've noticed that people always forget my name, too. Overall, this whole shyness/social anxiety thing makes me feels extremely inadequate - talking seems like such an easy thing to do, but for me it's terrifying. And I don't know what I expect to get out of posting this either. I guess it's just comforting to know that other people feel the same way... |
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mitch
Joined: Oct 12, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-12 17:08:35 |
| mariana i get the same exact feeling you do. im 19, male. spent a year in college, and being the shy type i just didnt fit in at all. acquaintances yes, but friendships were nonexistant. it just gets me so depressed when i talk to family about it, since its easy for them to socialize... but its so hard for me. | |
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mitch
Joined: Oct 12, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-13 04:09:07 |
| mariana i get the same exact feeling you do. im 19, male. spent a year in college, and being the shy type i just didnt fit in at all. acquaintances yes, but friendships were nonexistant. it just gets me so depressed when i talk to family about it, since its easy for them to socialize... but its so hard for me. | |
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