I really want to make some close friends.

soshylite Joined: Nov 20, '09 Status: New User	2009-11-20 13:59:18
	I am 29 now, but reading Chia's thread reminded me exactly how I felt when I was in high school. I was the exact same way. People always thought I was way more serious than I was, except for my close friends, and I had trouble holding conversations. I talked quietly and in an even tone and I was always afraid people found me boring. I will say that you can totally overcome it, because I did, so there is definitely hope. One of the other posts mentioned reaching out to people. Keep trying. If you're at work, talk about work. You can also focus on things you have in common and ask them questions about their interests. People will talk more about something their interested in. Think about things you have in common with your co-workers and imagine what you could talk with them about, so that when there is a lull in the conversation, you can bring it up. By the way, you know you're not boring. Having been in the same situation as you I know you're not boring, so remember that. You are an interesting person with interesting things to say. Take the risk of looking weird. It'll be hard at first because people are used to you being quiet. But keep trying, it'll feel really awkward and you'll probably question yourself, but don't let yourself. If you make a mistake don't be afraid to make fun of yourself, because that can take away some of the tension. Finally,just keep trying. Push yourself a little each day, and don't beat yourself up if you make a mistake. We all make mistakes. There's a great saying "Don't should on yourself today." Keep up that mantra. And if you are still struggling day to day, consider counselling. I spent far too many years struggling on my own, and I think it might have helped if I had sought out counselling earlier. I don't know if any of this is helpful at all. It's hard, but I know that it can get better. Good luck to you all. **Hugs**
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