hi

moneyspider Joined: Nov 15, '10 Status: New User	2010-11-15 15:43:13
	Hi,after many years, i now know whats wrong with me,im avoidant....still trying after 20 odd years to br like every1 else,have a few mates to hang out with...but the first sign of friendliness i run a mile,make excuses,and duck back into my shell. Just wondering when i shud give up and accept my lonliness?are there any solutions? Im glad it has a name now,i used to call my behaviour the weird freak! Now at least im an Avoidant.x
fantasy Joined: Jul 28, '09 Status: Senior User	2010-11-16 00:41:21
	Don't give up, unless you want to be lonely forever. There's always a way to change things though it might not be apparent and will be very difficult. Believe it or not you are not alone. There are many others like you hiding under their shell, you just can't see them because they're hidden :3 I used to be quite shy so I know what you mean, I still can't handle friendliness and compliments and am paranoid all the time but at least now I can talk to people without bursting into tears ._. Just keep putting yourself out there, don't madly trust everyone of course but don't wall yourself in either. Someday you'll find someone who you click with, then you will not regret taking chances and opening up, even though it hurt many times. I hope I helped, good luck xx
moneyspider Joined: Nov 15, '10 Status: New User	2010-11-16 13:25:34
	Aww thanks 4 your kind words.i do keep puttin myself out there,and its traumatic !! I expect it not to work now,so its never too disappointing x
ella Joined: Jun 13, '10 Status: Junior User	2010-11-21 08:08:53
	Don't try to be someone else, just to fit in. That's the first thing. Because if you have friends whilst pretending to be someone you're not, it will mean that when you propperly open up, they may have trouble accepting you as you are (trust me, I know) This might be why you feel like you should accept loneliness, because you feel you'll never be close to anyone. Please don't give up!! My best friend knows everything about me, and she accepts me just the way I am. She is entirely amazing. The point is, this is a big world. There has GOT to be someone out there waiting to get to know you better, because the chances of you NEVER beating loneliness is impossible. The world is too big a place. So just keep trying. Never give up. Good luck. xx
Need to see a psychologist? Find reviews on the best doctors in your area at Angie's List (Get access to thousands of reviews for a small charge)

Copyright 2012, all rights reserved. View our Privacy Policy | Advertise With Us
DISCLAIMER: These forums are not a substitute for evaluation by a medical professional. By using these forums you agree to hold 4degreez.com unaccountable for anything posted by other visitors. There is no endorsement made nor vetting done on any content posted by a visitor. This service is presented as-is with no warrantees; use at your own risk.