I'm pretty sure I have this disorder.........

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BSCB Joined: Oct 26, '10 Status: New User	2010-10-26 18:52:24
	- I'm 19 - My whole life I've never been able to achieve an intimate relationship with someone, no matter how hard I try, depression follows. - I have terrible mood swings. One day I'll be extremely happy, and the next day it's down in the dumps for me. - I become extremely uncomfortable around people I don't know. When my friends want to go to a party or something like it, I always decide to not go because I fear looking stupid in front of everyone, or that someone will try to fight me. - When I'm in my college classes, sometimes I become very uncomfortable, and I constantly think that the people around are watching me, and I constantly think they are thinking bad things about me.("That kid's wierd", etc) It's wierd though, because this is exactly how it was for me when I started high-school. After a while I became used to everyone in my class and the feeling of anxiety went away. - It takes a very very VERY long time for me to become comfortable with people. Even people who put forth an effort to befriend me. thats about it...thoughts?
purplerain Joined: Jun 3, '10 Status: Senior User	2010-10-26 20:39:09
	you posted the same thing twice
BSCB Joined: Oct 26, '10 Status: New User	2010-10-27 07:36:54
	No I didn't....
Heloisa Joined: Oct 27, '10 Status: New User	2010-10-27 11:31:03
	I'm 20 and I totally understand you... And every relative who knows about your situation always blame it on an attention need. That's even worse, you feel alone and even more misunderstood. It seems every time I'm finally feeling better, I always find a way to mess it up...
Berry Joined: Nov 3, '10 Status: New User	2010-11-03 11:59:48
	I'm 17, soon 18 and I feel the same way. Writing this, I even think about what the responses will be and I'm afraid of making mistakes. I think I know how you feel. I haven't (never ever) had a romantic relationship, because I don't go out that much, just home-school-home... Because you are older :), I'm hoping you could have some suggestions that could help.
beerdguy Joined: Nov 3, '10 Status: New User	2010-11-03 21:12:42
	Im a guy. I have the same age as you and the same conclusion that I have this disorder. I have a lot of fantasies where I am a rockstar or a successfull businessman or a soccer player.I also desire to change. And I feel that I dont have social skills. Is very hard to me to make friends but not becouse I think bad of them I think its mostly becouse is difficult to make persons get interested in me to have a couple of beers or something like that. But men let me tell you that this disorder is not forever, I know it cause by the years I have noticed some changes in me. To change you must try things, test yourself dont be so afraid of failing or been rejected, thats the only way to learn and improve. Seriously, start going to parties, you will see that people are more open and happy at parties. I have learned that in life not everything is black or white, is gray. For example alcoholic drinks, even though parents say is a bad thing, it helped me at parties to be more open, to lose the social anxiety, and enjoy...of course if you abuse of it, all will start getting black...like people getting fun of you becouse you are too drunk lol. Also, for a time I thought I will never be with a girl, but I have been in 2 relationships and trust me they are really good looking girls. The secret is just have fun with girls, being yourself, and of course not looking too needed of a relationship cause trut me girls can notice that in 5 seconds and they dislike that a lot. It stills happen to me though, when I get interested in a girl. So men just chill, but basically test you, talk to someone even if youre mind is pretty sure that person hates you, GO TO PARTIES, try new things and with some years you will notice that the anxiety is getting away.
Berry Joined: Nov 3, '10 Status: New User	2010-11-04 13:33:06
	Just make yourself do what you don't want to do and in time you'll just want to do it? I have thought of it and it has seemed to work... Still, the self pushing manages to have a negative side to it: it calls out all the negative thoughts and I have to fight them off. It is sometimes more difficult, but in any way it doesn't feel good. I'm even starting to think I have a split personality (which is a total fiction, but still...) I know that every story has two sides and the choices I make shouldn't be thought of as wrong ones. How can I know that and not "beat myself down" every time I have done something different? It may and may not be the same subject, but I feel like I can ask this here. PS. How to tell things to your best friend(s), without fearing that they will tell and without feeling like a "fool"..? You should hope for the best, I'm sure, but a little doubt still manages to remain. And the fear of what (s)he might think of me? Sharing any secrets is a tough thing to do, but sharing with someone you have been with for 9+ years..
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