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Shapes
Joined: Jan 10, '10
Status: Junior User |
2010-08-07 00:17:53 |
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I need some tips on how to not be a full on loser. I'm not fat, and not that bad looking, but I don't really care about that stuff. What I need to know is how to be more social, nice, and outgoing. I am basically a shut in, and have been for a while now. I need to redevelop my social skills in a sense. I am prescribed and take amphetamines. Sometimes I'll abuse/sell them. Anyways, I need to know how to be more normal. If I try being myself, I am a complete idiot, if I act like I'm someone else, I seem emotionally cold and pretentious, very boring. I'm thinking my main problem is my nonconformist attitude, I don't want to be grouped with any set of people or be easily read by others. At the same time, I hate attention, so that often causes problems. What can I do to change my mindset to want to be like everyone else? |
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blacknite
Joined: Aug 7, '10
Status: New User |
2010-08-07 13:22:23 |
| Don't try and be like anyone else, it will come accross as a smoke screen which in turn will have you laughed at. be yourself and gradually people will start talking to you and appreciating you for you. i takes time though trust me | |
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adam29
Joined: Jun 26, '10
Status: Junior User |
2010-08-07 13:56:25 |
| ^^true dat | |
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Insyte
Joined: Aug 5, '10
Status: New User |
2010-08-07 23:30:42 |
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Blacknite is so right. It's not an easy road and takes time. You don't need to want to be like everyone else, you need to find the confidence to be happy and comfortable with exactly who you are. At least, that is what I found. If you can go out amongst other people knowing exactly who you are and be confident and proud of that, other people will come to accept you as well. People who are different and creative are interesting, others will want to get to know more about you. Even if you have to fake that confidence at first (that's my trick), people are attracted to confidence. Are you only on amphetamines? I am on 40 mg of Paxil (Paroxetine Hydrochloride) and it has worked wonders for me. My doctor and I messed around with the dosage for a while until we got it right for me, but once I was taking it and got over the initial side effects it was like night and day. I was able to talk on the phone, take the bus, go to the mall and all sorts of other everyday things that most people take for granted. It really helps. It reduces my fear to a level that I can handle so that I can approach social situations from more of a "normal" angle. Even then, there was still a bit of a struggle because I had spent so much of my adolescence avoiding social situations that I had forgotten how to relate to people and had to learn that all over again. I have been on meds since my 19th birthday, which was 10 years ago now, I think I've got the socializing thing down, but I still have confidence issues when it comes to work. And intimate relationships ???? Hahaha. That's my next big hurdle. Hope this helps. :) |
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