Why im so shy around girls?

Coolstorybro Joined: Jun 17, '10 Status: New User	2010-06-17 07:44:25
	So im avoidant and extremely shy to girls who like me or when I like them. It totally sucks because there was this good looking girl practically throwing herself to my feet and me being so shy I couldnt really find myself talking to her and relating to her, I also didnt think she really liked me, just f---ing with me because thats how self concious I am, but she really did like me and her friends told me so too. But what Im getting at is my mom died when I was very young and didnt grow up with a female role model or a female that I loved. Could that be why Im overly shy around girls I like?
ste 1 Joined: Jun 15, '10 Status: New User	2010-06-17 08:09:49
	hi i can totally relate to what you just said. I dont think it nothing to do with your lack of a female role model. For myself it's the added pressure of the craving for love and companionship,it hurts i need it so much as ive been single for over 10years now and dont even attempt or contenplate talking to the opposite sex, i just freeze if i find them attractive and my mind goes numb and blank. It really scares me because im pretty certain i'm going to be alone for the rest of my life.Im 36 now and feel its to deeply ingrained to change but i really hope you find a way to deal with it.
TRK Joined: Jun 24, '10 Status: New User	2010-06-24 09:53:25
	hi guys i am a girl and i feel this way around guys, actually that's how it started and now i feel this way around everyone. I urge you to talk more about how you feel towards this because that always seems to help me.
ireland Joined: May 1, '10 Status: Junior User	2010-06-24 13:02:23
	Coolstorybro-I think you are correct in your thinking,I would hope your mum would have been a good role model for you. Perhaps the little time you had with her and the judgement you made towards this girl,proves that she was. Perhaps the girl is also shy and her mates are pushing her in a way that would make her behave this way?x
Ladyboy25 Joined: Jun 21, '10 Status: New User	2010-06-24 19:44:14
	If a really pretty girl threw herself at me, I would immediately think she's either after my money or something else and run away. If a above average looking girl did the same, I would let her into my life but slowly. Of course I'm talking about complete strangers. If they are friend of a friend or a classmate then I would not hesistate to pursue a being friends.
Lufty Joined: Jun 19, '10 Status: New User	2010-06-29 21:37:10
	It also happens to me,I'm shy with girls though my shyness is not particularly worse with them. I believe it happens with equal frequency as I'm around people in general. I'm totally sure some of them took a certain interest in me, but nothing came of it, seing that I couldn't be very demonstrative of my own interests. Either I was unsure or unconsciously raised barriers to them. I was often confronted by inner questionings about whether I was actually liked or not, because I couldn't even trust myself let alone others' perceptions of myself. Usually, I was encumbered by those doubts, wondering why would anyone actually be willing to go out with me in the first place.
sleepyhead Joined: Jun 29, '10 Status: New User	2010-07-03 11:05:57
	that's how i feel around guys and i never had a good male role model in my life. it makes sense. I felt the same way when I met my boyfriend. I thought he was just using me to have sex cos I was a steady lay. It turns out he really likes me, however this doesnt stop the billions of thoughts running through my head all the time. What works for me is to just tell yourself it doesnt matter. I'm assuming youre young, but even if you arent, nothing says you have to take the relationship seriously. It could be just for fun and turn serious or just be a fling. It doesnt matter. Just have fun and don't worry about it (which is really f---ing difficult. Easier said than done I know, but might as well just do it for the experience) If she really does like you, you should be able to talk about these feelings with her without feeling bad.
lillyyy Joined: Nov 29, '09 Status: New User	2010-07-03 23:48:21
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