Thread Topic: Is this normal for someone my age?
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HermyStar
Joined: Jul 17, '09
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2009-07-17 15:58:10 |
| I'm just an 11-yeear-old girl, and I feel that I have a problem. I'm honestly scared in social situations, and I can barely talk to my closest friends. I'm silent at school, because if I say anything, people will tell me to shut up and I'm stupid. Not even my friends sympathize. They have a history of making fun of me, and the only reason that they're my friends is that they tolerate being around me. I do have one good friend, but we're opposites, and he dosen't understand. I've never done anything mean or rude, but people avoid me. Because of this, I'm scared to talk to anyone new. The last time I did, the girl told me to go away. Is it because I'm slightly overweight, or that I'm a bit nerdy? It really dosen't help that my parents have nerve-wracking fights all the time. The only thing that helps me feel at peace at any time is when I draw or write. I don't know what to do! | |
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Unanswered Thread: Does this mean I'm crazy? posted by deeqt 24 minutes ago |
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MLMasochist
Joined: Jul 18, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-18 00:20:20 |
| I'm a 13 year old girl who feels the exact same way. And I have for years. | |
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MLMasochist
Joined: Jul 18, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-18 00:23:36 |
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I'm a 13 year old girl who feels the exact same way. And I have for years. I know it's hard to tell someone how you really feel. But it's neccessary. I haven't told anyone how "depressed" and "sad" I am, and I've created a bad addiction for myself. Get up the courage to talk to someone before things become out of control. Just remember that there are other people out there like you. That feel what you feel. I hope this helps. :) |
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HermyStar
Joined: Jul 17, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-21 13:40:52 |
| Thanks. That really helps to know that there are other young people like this. | |
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julekert
Joined: Jul 23, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-23 18:13:16 |
| i'm a 15 year old girl, a little older than you, but i feel the same way! i started feeling exactly how you do when i was around your age. i'm still trying to find help, and i don't know if i ever will or this is just something that will go away, but it's nice to know i'm not alone. you aren't alone :) | |
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InMyRoom
Joined: Jul 5, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-26 22:00:06 |
| I am 14 going on 15 year old girl who has the same problem, its such a big problem that i don't like to go anywhere if i know i have to talk. i love to talk only if i am sure that i wont be a complete screw up and the chances of that is 0. and my issues are starting to get bigger, and i think i have a difficult time hiding it but my parents are completely oblivious to this, i mean couldnt they take a hint when i refused to go to basketball camp or to church or when i told them that i was going to live in a cabin in the middle of no where all by my self (if i live cause i think i am going to die soon) ...they think nothing is wrong with me, i am toooooo shy to tell them, and i am slowly losing it... | |
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lgilbert1982
Joined: Jul 28, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-28 08:48:32 |
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I am a 27 year old girl, and I know exactly how you feel. I have felt that way my whole life. At least since I was probably about 5-6 years old, and it has only gotten worse for me over the years. I've never actually had anyone tell me to shut up or say that I'm stupid, but they sure make me feel that way a lot. If I voice an idea or suggestion, everyone just gets quiet and stares at me for a moment like I'm crazy before finally moving on in the conversation like I never even spoke. That is if they don't totally interrupt me like I'm not even speaking in the first place. People tend to avoid me too, I don't get invited to lunch with coworkers, no one ever tells me about social events that are going on at or after work and it was the same way in high school too. I had a few "friends" but I never saw any of them outside of school. They would hang out together outside of school, but I was never invited. I am always the last one to hear about anything too. I do crave social interactions and acceptance, but I feel so inadequate and embarrassed that I tend shun everyone. The only person I am close to at all anymore is my husband, and there are times that I do not even want him around. He understands my problem and helps me as much as he can, but he knows that sometimes I need my space and provides that. I just feel bad that I tend to take my anxiety out on him so much, I know it hurts him but I just can't seem to do anything about it. Believe me, I know you are scared to tell anyone about your problem, but it would be for the best. Telling your parents would be best, but if you can't ligitimately tell your parents, tell a school counselor or a teacher you trust. Just anyone that might help and/or give some advice. Catching it young is so much better. It usually gets worse as you get older if you do not get treatment. I've been having trouble getting help because I don't have insurance and it affects every aspect of my life. I can not hold a job for more than a few years, and my performance at my job is anything but adequate. It is so hard sometimes to even FORCE myself to go to work because the anxiety levels in the morning are so high that it is difficult to even function. Many morning I wind up late because I can not stop crying. It has literally become a physical limitation, and I really hope that you can find help before you are out of school so that you do not reach the state that I am in now. I know it can be managed somewhat now, but you need help, because it will only get worse on you once you have a job and bills to pay. Until you can find a way to get help, one thing I've found that eases the symptoms is exercise. It releases hormones that help deal with stress. It is difficult to get going with it when you are depressed I know, but even just 20 minutes a few days a week doing an activity you enjoy can help tremendously. Also picking up a new hobby every few months seems to help some as well. I hope this helps some. I know it is difficult. Just keep in mind that talking about it does help some, and we are all here to listen. Good luck. |
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HermyStar
Joined: Jul 17, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-28 18:42:23 |
| Thanks. You all are making me feel better. I guess that's one of my biggest problems: I always feel alone in this world. | |
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HermyStar
Joined: Jul 17, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-28 18:42:55 |
| Thanks. You all are making me feel better. I guess that's one of my biggest problems: I always feel alone in this world. | |
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Shadow
Joined: Jul 30, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-30 01:50:44 |
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Um, Hello I am 17 attending high school and suffer from AvPD, I am the first guy to post on this forum so it's strange for me but girls I noticed are more understanding and they tend to accept me more than other guys so here goes.. I have been told ever since I was around 5 that I was really shy around other kids and rarely played with anyone else, and up to this day like Iqilbert1987 said, It only gets worse as you get older. Many people think I'm cold and indifferent which can be really frustrating, I have a few friends and have not had many relationships at all. I often find myself wondering if there is anyway to shake this off at all, even if just alittle.. |
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Onmyown
Joined: Jul 30, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-30 09:20:32 |
| It's really hard for me to talk to other people because I'm afraid that they will just ignore whatever I say. | |
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Fatality
Joined: Jul 14, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-07-30 09:26:41 |
| I can assure you all of us in this forum will listen to anything you want to say, and a lot of other people in here share the same feelings :) | |
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kafkaesque
Joined: Aug 7, '09
Status: New User |
2009-08-07 16:40:04 |
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hi, i'm a boy too and i have 19 years old. i'm actualy from brazil so forgive me for some gramatical mistakes. especialy because i'm on medication and it's been a little hard to write things. i tend to write a completely different word than what i'm thinking of. anyway, when i was young i had the same problem. it was hard to go to school because there i felt absolutely rejected by the others. i think in brazil the bullying problem it's not that hard, by i'm gay and very underweight so people always made joke about me, they reunite in groups to laught at me and i'm a very proud person, so it was difficult to accept the humiliation. my parents won't help at that time, because if they knew, they would scream at me and feel shame instead of support me. when i got a little older a fond some amazing friends, who absolutely understood my problems and made me feel secure and protect. i fond strenght to fight for respect and became a very secure person. or so i thinked i was. now, i'm in college, and my friends are all gone, so the symptons came back a looot harder. i barely can talk to people without shaking, even if its the guy where i rent movies and things like that. even my parents, actualy, who now aceppet me for who i'm. it's junt so tense to be around people, but at same time i dream-wake about a life full of joy, friends and aceptence, and i cant avoid fantasize about that. it make me fells mediocre, i wish i could live a life without needing anyone. i feel stupid, and dumb, but the people think i'm a intelligent guy, so i'm so scared they discover what i real am. i analyse everything i talk, every move i make, its sooo overwhelming. i'm taking a lot of pills and i hope this is goind to help me get back the way i was before, when i had such great friends. but even if it does, i dont have anyone anymore, so, whats the point? it's wonderful to read what you guys are saying, made me feel more confortable. here in brazil people are always so full of joy, it´s like i dont even belong to this place, or to this world of happy and secure people. i hate them and i need them at the sime time. hermystar, i doing cinema at the college, and i loooove to write. i would like so much to read the things you do. if you feel confortable enough to share them with a stranger, please, let me know. and for you all, good luck and thank you. ps: i hope my english is at least compreensible. ps: my parent are whispering about my problems in the kitchen (i live alone, but they're here)... it's a thing so STUPID to do when they have a son like me. what are they thinking? |
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098765
Joined: Aug 15, '09
Status: New User |
2009-08-15 08:13:26 |
| wow you guys are just like me glad to know im not alone :) | |
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