Thread Topic: I've had undiagnosed social anxiety for many years
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mgm
Joined: Jul 7, '09
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2009-07-07 07:34:37 |
| I have had this social anxiety for the longest time, since early childhood. Always afraid of what people thought, always fearing rejection, always wanting to hide. In school and sports I got out there a little, but as I got old (college) I hid more and more. I have also had bouts of major depression throughout my adult like and am in one now. Can't seem to do anything with any confidence. Terrible anxiety to commit to anything. Had been able to mask it for a while but can't seem to mask it anymore. Probably about to lose job-not performing well, barely at all. Overwhelmed and very depressed. Am seeking professional help and am on Rx but still not getting anywhere. I can relate to seeing old friends and others seem to advance in life, to grow and thrive, and instead I am frozen with fear and going backwards. Don't know what to do. Just trying to survive. | |
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eighttwentyone
Joined: Jul 12, '09
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2009-07-12 21:49:29 |
| i've had social anxiety for many years, even though i'm only sixteen. i avoid walking into rooms filled with people because i always feel someone's watching and staring at me. my social life is poor due to being homeschooled and when i go into a crowd, i feel intimidated when i'm around others; like i have to compete to win one's approval and i've lost friends from this. i don't know what to do, and i feel all of yours' pain with this condition. what do you guys do to combat this ailment? i don't know what to do. | |
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SamManson14
Joined: Jul 14, '09
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2009-07-14 15:58:09 |
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You poor thing! I left a reply with some advice on the thread you created: shyness has been forever afraid to tell mom... Please read it! (hugs you) |
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SamManson14
Joined: Jul 14, '09
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2009-07-14 15:59:28 |
| Whoops, sorry. That last message was to InMyRoom,sorry... | |
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newguy50
Joined: Jul 16, '09
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2009-07-16 00:26:13 |
| this is funny, heres the scenario...late night about 3 in the morning..my mind is racing again...i dont fully know why but i google "never had anxiety before,now i do" and i think God sent me this website..i've read through some of the posts and i find this all really interesting because i can relate...the past couple years of my life have been really crazy, i've never been the socially anxious type..ever since i was little it never phased me to start a conversation with a random person..even in HS i was a super popular kid, well known athlete, homecoming king my peers and teachers loved me...i used to be so comfortable with just being myself that i didnt really know what anxiety really was... i dont really know how it happened, i just went on a complete downward spiral after senior year... major disappointments, bad friends putting me down, bad choices and an overall bad environment left me feeling empty inside...now my head feels like its screwed on backwards and i cant communicate or connect with the world like i used to !!!! i feel disconnected and distant in social settings now..like im lost in a fog and cant escape... | |
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santo domingo
Joined: Jul 26, '09
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2009-07-26 18:41:52 |
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Okay...There is one word that I really haven't heard anyone use, introvert. I think that is what i am and I guess that just makes me feel better. I feel like I have to put in so much work when I am around people. I literally avoided one of my good friends birthday party because I didn't want to socialize. i guess that is why I am on her too. i feel really bad about missing her party and for like the 10th time of missing an even, i just came up with a new excuse. i told her something like " sorry, i don't thing i will make it back on time. So sad. |
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santo domingo
Joined: Jul 26, '09
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2009-07-26 18:44:47 |
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Okay...There is one word that I really haven't heard anyone use, introvert. I think that is what i am and I guess that just makes me feel better. I feel like I have to put in so much work when I am around people. I literally avoided one of my good friends birthday party because I didn't want to socialize. i guess that is why I am on her too. i feel really bad about missing her party and for like the 10th time of missing an even, i just came up with a new excuse. i told her something like " sorry, i don't thing i will make it back on time. So sad. |
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no_one
Joined: Jul 27, '09
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2009-07-29 03:08:28 |
| People never seem to understand that your not self obsessed your just really confused...Friends are getting bored with constantly having to try convince you that their not talking about you (even though you swear they are) and it messes with your head....has anyone else ever convinced themseleves that there is actually no mental problem its actually just you.... | |
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salvation
Joined: Aug 8, '09
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2009-08-08 10:13:04 |
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[no urls] this organization was created by a doctor who used to have social anxiety. there is a program he created that helped me greatly with my social anxiety. Ive been doing his therapy for over a year and I cant express how thankful I am that I found his program. It cost me like 400 dollars but its well worth the price considering what it does for you. The package you get consists of 20 audio cds that you listen to every week til you finish them and a notebook filled with therapy handouts that you read out loud every day for thirty minutes. The notebook did the most for me because it really explained a lot about why I felt the way I did and it really challenged my negative beliefs. It also helped my concentration because I think anxiety hurts that area of your life. The program really works, but it takes time. |
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salvation
Joined: Aug 8, '09
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2009-08-08 10:13:53 |
| woops cant link the website but just google social anxiety institute. | |
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Duz
Joined: Aug 11, '09
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2009-08-11 07:30:16 |
| I am 16 yrs old and i have undiagnosed social anxiety, it really annoys me because i used to be confident but now i find it hard to meet new people and hate having attention on me.It now is affecting everyday life because i feel anxious atleast twice a day and most of the time i don't know why. i never really had great confidence but recently it's got worse could this be down to the fact i moved house and just finished school ?(waiting for my results) what should i do to overcome this anxiety? | |
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Ineloquence
Joined: Aug 27, '09
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2009-08-28 18:36:05 |
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I also have a extremely hard time with life. I have not been diagnosed for the sole reason that I'm too frightened to go. Because if i can barely talk to friends, how do i expect to talk to a total stranger. I have been this way since I was about 10, but it got extremely worse as i got older. I took me about 2 years to ask this girl out and every time i tried i froze completely. It wasn't just with girls but with anyone. Either i would freeze or just say something that made no sense. And now i can barely leave my house without getting some sort of anxiety attack and I end up hiding again. I'm only 19 now but it has already ruined a lot of my life. I quit school because i couldn't get myself to go, ended up getting a GED online luckily for me. I have quit 3 jobs because of fear of embarrassment or just not being able to go outside for months. Unlike some of you I am not overweight or ugly, many are a little shocked that i have these problems. So it can happen to anyone, and for those that still are young like me. I would highly suggest getting help, I'm going to try to next week. I is seriously no way to live, i can't work, I can't go to school, and i definitely can't hold a relationship for anything. As for the rest of you i deeply hope you get help somehow because I personally know how hard it is to live this way. P.S. sorry about the rambling if i did any, but i seem to do that as well. |
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Frustrated
Joined: Jul 13, '09
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2009-09-01 03:57:03 |
| I've just been diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder I finally got enough courage to go to a psychiatrist. I'll probably start taking meds soon but am scared of doing that as well but I am so desperate to just be normal that I am going to. What do u guys think about meds to cure anxiety? I have so many problems that I dont even know if anxiety fully covers them...but I know a major issue I've had since I was a kid was feeling like I have no friends no one likes me, loneliness, nervousness, not being able to speak infront of people, not wanting people to look at me and etc, this would have been justified when I was a kid because I wasn't attractive and no one really ever tried to associate with me much...but I actually turned out pretty attractive and so many people have always tried to make an effort with me...especially guys since I've been 16 and I am now 23...yet I still have the same feelings and reactions of nervousness and shyness not wanting attention...but now instead of overall I contribute all of these feelings to my personality...but I know even that is not bad because I have friends that I know must really like me because they make such an effort yet I still feel like they are just acting like it and really don't. I can't seem to get rid of these irrational feelings & thinking even when I know it doesnt make sense...I just want to control my mind & feel what I want to feel. I don't think that any medication or counseling will be able to help me change my thinking & feel so helpless...I feel like all this psychological stuff is so incurable... | |
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Caticia
Joined: Aug 31, '09
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2009-09-01 10:26:29 |
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To Frustrated: About those thoughts of your friends just "Acting" like they like you... My therapist once told me that because of my anxiety that my brain wasn't allowing me to think good thoughts. All I had was sad. She gave me a quote that I think is cool but I also feel a little cheesey saying it. Anyway, the quote is, "Don't believe everything you think." and that made sense to me because sometimes I feel like I don't have control over my own mind. Also, have you really discussed what anti-anxiety meds do? Has your psychiatrist talked to you about synapses in the brain and seratonin levels? |
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needwayout
Joined: Sep 1, '09
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2009-09-01 12:28:27 |
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I have sufferd from anxiety from beginning of secondary school and I have always found it hard to interact with people, I cannot, even with my friends hold a one on one conversation without long silences and coming out of it feeling akward. I hate going to the hairdressers because i actually have to talk to them. I sit at home really wanting to make a decent relationship with friends but i can't, they don't want to see me. To have social skills and be able to hold a one on one conversation would be brilliant. |
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