Thread Topic: Welcome to the Avoidant/Social Anxiety Forum
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disorderguy
Joined: May 5, '09
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2009-05-05 07:03:28 |
| Social anxiety can be a devastating problem to live with. This board has just been set up as a place to talk about the impact social anxiety has on your life and what you can do to overcome it. Please do not hesitate to share your thoughts. | |
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me123
Joined: May 5, '09
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2009-05-05 18:51:29 |
| Are these forum things new? I've never seen them before on this website. | |
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me123
Joined: May 5, '09
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2009-05-05 18:53:01 |
| Erm... sorry I didn't notice the announcement in the other section. | |
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heatherrr
Joined: May 6, '09
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2009-05-06 20:11:47 |
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ooo ok. um whenever i walk in public i get really really scared and embaressed and want to hide n hate bein around a lot of ppl n im very insecure either though everyone says im beautiful n im very bad at social skills im quiet cos i cant socialize very well in real life with kids my age |
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Donkeyt
Joined: May 16, '09
Status: New User |
2009-05-16 02:16:20 |
| The Aviodant Personality discription /really/ description fits me perfectly. No wonder I scored Very High. | |
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nurse helen
Joined: May 30, '09
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2009-05-30 18:50:46 |
| I am now 58 and have attempted suicide 3 times. Finally diagnosed with avoidant personality disorder, but the diagnosis doesn't make anything better. I have been getting worse every year, and am not confident that therapy will help. Have been on anti-depressants for years, but feel worse now than I ever have. It does help to feel I am not alone with this terrible struggle. | |
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wchris
Joined: May 31, '09
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2009-05-31 08:06:53 |
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wchris
Joined: May 31, '09
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2009-05-31 08:18:20 |
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Hello that is a little word for a big problem - "hello" :-) To Nurse Helen - we are peers in age, this problem does not go away with time alone, does it. I am so sorry you are dealing with suicide. My best friend took her life a year ago and the world continues to reel. You did reach out on this board, that is a very good thing. I become nauseated when I go into a big department store, into a mall, fairgrounds etc. but am sort of used to the local airport cuz I fly out of there a lot. Big open places with lots of people have that physical affect on me. Anyone else? I have an office job and try to avoid the bigger rooms, and get very anxious when I have to go into them, want to slip through without anyone noticing although on the outside I'm sometimes friendly. And even when trying to go out to a movie with someone, like today, I just want to hide out in my house/backyard and not interact with anyone, yet crave being with someone. Anyone else? sigh.....what do you do about it? Thanks and best wishes |
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pup
Joined: Jun 3, '09
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2009-06-03 20:59:43 |
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um, hi idk if what I have is an illness or just normal, because I'm just a teenager with issues. I most of the time try to avoid people, and sometimes I try to get near them and start a conversation and I'm sometimes successful and when I'm not I feel like totally rejected and like I just want to vanish from the world. All of my friends think of me as weird because I talk elaborately and because my way of thinking isn't like theirs. I'm currently in a relationship and idk what to do or think anymore because I'm suddenly feeling like the world is at my feet then like I'm worth nothing and just too sad to do my favorite hobby anymore. Sometimes when he teases and he's playing idk why I take it for real. And like, I think he doesn't like me but then there are moments when he really shows me he loves me but I don't know what to think anymore. Anyone know if its normal for a teenager to feel this? I mean, I heard people talk about how adolescence causes a mixture of feelings, but like, is it normal for me to sometimes avoid my friends, my family and even my bf who I love? Not avoid like hide before they find me, but like just hide or hope that they don't think of you as weird or something... |
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r2dav
Joined: Jun 29, '09
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2009-06-29 23:43:23 |
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pup, i'm 23 know and had similar problems u had as a teenager. i was always odd compared to everyone else. my way of thinking always seemed different to everybody else. i found that to talk/socialise with others, i had to 'dumbed down' my language. this was difficult for me as a 15 y/o. i ended up abusing drugs and had very poor relationships, especially with girls where i tended to use them. i don't do that alot anymore but have been diagnosed with depression. i'm still socially shy and awkward, have trouble with relationships with girls and am generally called anti-social. im currently seeing a psych and on meds. These are my experiences and hope they can help you somehow. |
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shygirl92
Joined: Jun 30, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-30 11:28:26 |
| hi im 17 years old and i have always been known as the shy one or the quiet one...but to me, i really can't help it. when i'm in a social situation i just freeze up and can barely speak. i'm so afraid i'm going to say something stupid ugh i hate it. is there anyway i could get rid of this on my own or should i seek out therapy? | |
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lisa9047
Joined: Jun 30, '09
Status: New User |
2009-06-30 20:41:51 |
| I believe I have AvPD. I am very quiet although when needed I am able to talk up. But inside I'm scared to death. I want to interact and talk with others but its hard because I feel like I'm going to say something stupid or mess up. I talk really low. It's like I have no confidence in what I have to say. In high school I was very antisocial. It was a horrible experience. I was sad most of the time. I was a loner and stayed to myself. Just the little bit of a sense of rejection made me withdrawal. I lost a lot of confidence and my esteem was low. It got so bad I stopped doing my work, I procrastinated and eventually stopped going to school. Till this day I am without my diploma. This is how bad AvPD has affected my life. It's so deep. I also deal with the fantasy issue or fixed fantasy disorder. I fantasize a lot about others lives and at times try to fit myself into my fantasies. It's horrible because it's consuming my mind. I just want to be able to be social like others and have lots of friends and speak up. I want to know what that is like. Up till know I've just considered myself a weak person. To say the least, I am tired of this. | |
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srroc
Joined: Jul 1, '09
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2009-07-01 01:11:27 |
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Hello all. My reason for writing this statement is to offer an alternative point of view and possibly a solution to the Social Anxiety condition. Firstly, I'd like to start by saying that what I'm about to present has taken around eight years of continuous study and isn't a simple theory that I've just thrown together. Secondly, I'd like to add that I'm not trying to sell anything, or alter anyone's belief system. My intention for this statement is purely to offer an alternate view and possible solution to this condition and in no way an attempt to gain anything personally. All I ask is that people who suffer from Social Anxiety, or people who don't suffer but just live with the condition please read this statement and give it some serious thought. To start with, please create a separation between the human brain and mind, and the human heart and soul. Please imagine that thoughts and feelings can either be created and experienced in the mind, but also created and experienced in the heart. This is a good place to be in before you read the statement as I want everyone reading to be aware that there is a very real division between the physical world and the etheric non-physical world. I'm a believer in that the brain is the mind, it's the part that defines a human in all dualistic ways. It's the part that makes one aware that they're a male or a female, that they are rich or poor, black or white, fat or thin.. etc. These are the physical factors that work hand in hand with the current physical five sensory reality. The mental mind is the ego of a person and the amount of ego ranges from person to person depending on how much they use the mental mind to define themselves. Thoughts created in the mind are rarely original, meaning that they are based on routines, mental systems and conditioning. Consciousness in it's rawest state is the heart so the heart is YOU, so to speak. It's the part that is completely undefinable. It never ages, it's never evil and certainly can't possess any illness. The heart is a etheric mind that is capable of producing original thoughts and feelings. In fact, in my experience, when a thought is created in the heart, it's always very positive which guides my actions productively and therefore doesn't effect anyone else negatively. In the last twenty years or so, the human mind has been so bombarded with conditioning factors from technology, fashions and cultures mainly driven into the mind buy the television that a huge disconnection to the heart mind has occurred. This disconnection I speak of is a vital problem to address in order to understand what (in my opinion) Social Anxiety actually is. I shall now explain. People radiate an etheric energy. This energy ranges from a harsh materialistic and egotistical energy right up to less harsh and more compassionate energy that is less visual. The more materialistic a person is, the more they need to invade other people's five sensory system in order to be noticed. The less materialistic a person is, the less they will do to be noticed. So, the etheric energy radiated by people ranges from harsh to mellow. When a person has a Social Anxiety attack, or just feels 'those feelings' it's because one is reading the vibrational output of another human or humans. The feelings I'm referring to are the ones of panic, blushing, depletion of energy, sickness etc. A person can feel other people's vibrational output when they primarily conduct themselves from the heart mind. So, my key point in the statement is that (in my opinion) Social Anxiety is in fact an extra sensory ability! Another common term for extra sensory ability is Psychic. Yes, that's right... I believe and know that Social Anxiety is a symptom of a Psychic ability and have studied this extensively since my discovery was made. Please take a moment to ponder this statement and remember the times that we've all walked into a room and felt attacked by energy and how small we feel. It's not that we are small, it's because we are very receptive of other people's true feelings. We, as receptive beings feel other peoples pain, other peoples happiness and all the stuff in between. Is it any wonder that we feel like we want to collapse in a sweaty mess on the floor?! This now leads me to my next points about the current treatment for Social Anxiety and most importantly, the benefits of being receptive to etheric energies. Firstly, I'd like to explain my problems with current commercial treatment for Social Anxiety Disorder. I know that a lot of people reading this will be on medications and will have a lot of trust in them and I'd like to say that in no way do I wish to come across as insulting or disrespectful. I can't help it if what I say conflicts with any current belief systems but if it does, I apologise in advance. Medical science considers that Social Anxiety resides in the mental mind so they've created a host of medications, theories and practices in order to combat it. This is a five sensory and dualistic approach to an extra sensory occurrence. So, in other words, the mental mind has created a solution for a problem that they think resides within the mental mind, which in my opinion, it does not. If this is the case, the medications or mental exercises serve no real purpose. The medications are designed to trap a person in the mind, so they're thoughts and feelings are established within the mind and the medication builds a huge wall between the mental mind and the heart mind. The medications add to all of the current technological conditioning from the TV that do exactly the same thing. I don't want to sound like too much of a conspiracy theorist here, but it wouldn't put it past to big pharmaceutical companies to cover up the extra sensory abilities that people can possess in order to make a load of money by calling it Social Anxiety? It all comes down to a simple questions that only the individual Social Anxiety sufferer can ask themselves which is.... Do I want to be disconnected from the heart mind, or not? Do I want to learn more about my extra sensory ability, or not? I appreciate for some, the answer could be no on both counts, and I'm not hear to preach so I'll say no more about that. The benefits to being connected to the heart mind or living as an extra sensory being are as follow. Once you learn to process and convert the feelings that one takes on board from others, you can be in a position to highlight negative issues in other people. I do not mean cast judgement, I mean, one is able to see possible inner pain or problems in others and can do productive things to help them. It's very hard to explain, but once one makes the etheric connection, all becomes clear. Also, an extra sensory being can learn to strengthen their intent through positive heart based thoughts in order to help others. This is what Reiki / hands on healers do for example. Receptive people can also take on board energies from others and release them positively back into the world through art work, making music and even just radiating love to all things through being themselves free from mental ego. I obviously believe that the heart mind is the part that every human on the planet should be aware of and learn to live from. This mind when I rediscovered it made me very complete. I still have those anxious feelings, but now I understand them. I certainly do not consider being receptive an illness or disorder! I've lived for years now as a receptive beckon and can sense real vibratory feelings that people radiate even when their material world is working hard to cover them up. Personally I'd rather spend my life helping people rather than hiding away thinking I had a mental illness problem which is what I was doing previously. The heart mind also works hand in hand with the universal Laws of Attraction, so life on al |
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PORTCITYDYME318
Joined: Jul 2, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-02 21:50:59 |
| THANK U FOR THAT INSIGHT!!! THAT MAKES SO MUCH SENSE TO ME BECAUSE I ALWAYS BELIEVED I HAD SOME KINDA VIBE OR EXTRA SENSORY THINGS GOING ON | |
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SamManson14
Joined: Jul 14, '09
Status: New User |
2009-07-14 16:08:50 |
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srroc: You need to tell that to InMyRoom! She/he (never said their gender) needs it bad! She/he's disorder is so big that they're afraid to tell an adult that someone is sexually harrasing them! You have to say something to her! (I'm sure that it's a girl) Please, you could be her only hope, I'm not sure that my advice was good enough =( |
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