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Mirage
Joined: Oct 30, '09
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2009-10-30 07:04:05 |
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I have a teenager who has been in and out of hospitals since the age of 12. She is now almost 16. She lies, steals, hurts others, has no remorse. Skips school, refuses to do any thing positive for herself. She superficially cuts her arm then shows everyone for attention. She threatens to hurt herself, others and to run away if she doesn't get what she wants. She has lived in and out of our home never staying more that a few weeks because she doesn't want any consequences for her actions. She wants to be able to do what she wants, when she wants. She has no friends. Other kids in a cooking class wanted her out of their group because they all believe she put soap in the pancake batter when they weren't looking. Her therapists say she is BPD but I believe she is APD because she enjoys hurting others and often says she hurts people because she doesn't care about anyone because they "make her mad" and likes it. We had to lock the door to the main level at night because she was getting up in the middle of the night "lurking around" and stealing from everyone. We have 7 other children in the home that are "afraid" of her and says she is mean. She gets in fights and is physically aggressive. Why are the therapists so afraid to diagnose her correctly? I believe BPD is just mainly wanting to hurt yourself and unstable relationships with erratic mood swings. She never has mood swings she just "gets you back" if you do anything she doesn't like. Ideas and suggestions are welcome. |
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Unanswered Thread: VRIELLIS PLEASE READ posted by Synapse 13 days ago |
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Synapse
Joined: Oct 24, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-10-30 10:41:16 |
| the question is why are you such a s---ty parent | |
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Mirage
Joined: Oct 30, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-30 10:57:36 |
| If I was such a s--ty parent then I would be having a problem with all of the other children. Like I said, I have 7 other children all who do very well in school and at home. 3 of my children are in the gifted program. None of the other children have any mental problems at all. Maybe you're projecting your s--ty parening guilt onto me. | |
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Hip
Joined: Aug 10, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-10-30 12:54:26 |
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Hahaha, SEVEN children? Wow. It sounds to me you had way too many than you could support and that one didnt get enough personal space and couldnt always get what she wanted since she had 6 other siblings that also needed attention. Tell us a little about her history. Was she always like this or graduated to this point only recently? |
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Mirage
Joined: Oct 30, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-30 13:22:48 |
| I'm not even going to bother now. I got on this forum to get some valuable advice and I'm just getting ridiculed. I know plenty of people who have fewer children and doing much worse. Every family has problems no matter the size. Common sense would tell you that by the fact that she is the only one with problems while everyone else in the home is doing well. We make a good living and take very good care of our children. I am a stay at home mom and I'm always available for every single child. I make sure of it, that's why I'm here when they leave for school and here when they come home. No one has ever been in daycare. So telling me that she didn't get enough attention is bull, she just wants ALL attention ALL the time. Nevermind anyone else. | |
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Fatality
Joined: Jul 14, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-10-30 14:24:48 |
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Well you didn't give us a background on your parenting, so ignore what Synapse said, but if you have seven other children, of whom thee are in the gifted program, you must have done something right! But maybe she feels left-out, fighting for your attention. Now i'm not saying you're not giving her any, but she might feel that way. Have you tried to speak with her regarding it? Well you probably have but i know *nothing* on parenting, so i'm sorry i couldn't be more help to you. |
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Hip
Joined: Aug 10, '09
Status: Senior User |
2009-10-30 15:13:52 |
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Mirage, how did I ridicule you? I was totally neutral. You bet your ass that parents with few children can f--- up big time too. I was an only child and my parents, well, failed in every aspect of parenting that I had to raise myself since day one. Even if you at home all day and spend lots of time with your 7 kids, you gotta admit that at least a couple of them wont be getting some attention they feel like they really need at the moment, and will feel left out. Maybe the girl feels such because the rest of them are smart and excelling at school and she thinks you all think of her less because she isnt living up to her sibling's standards, so she feels insecure and its her way of crying out for attention. As I said, give us some background on her personal history. Was it always the case or did it just happen recently? |
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Tyne
Joined: Oct 31, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-31 05:25:38 |
| Mirage, I feel for you and what your family is going through. To the others in the forum, my goodness, Hip and Synapse what are you doing! This woman is asking for help and the best your ignorance can come up with is that she must be a s..ty parent! What projection!!! Mirage your child is suffering and is enjoying creating suffering around her. Im not a doctor, just another person trying to understand anothers personality disorders, but may I suggest that you get as many medical opinions as possible. It may require a family response (change behaviors or support factors), her behaviors may be influenced by diet, drugs or there may be a chemical imbalance. Irrespective, I wish you luck and hope that your entire family finds peace and a combined supported outcome. | |
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Tyne
Joined: Oct 31, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-31 05:27:11 |
| Mirage, I feel for you and what your family is going through. To the others in the forum, my goodness, Hip and Synapse what are you doing! This woman is asking for help and the best your ignorance can come up with is that she must be a s..ty parent! What projection!!! Mirage your child is suffering and is enjoying creating suffering around her. Im not a doctor, just another person trying to understand anothers personality disorders, but may I suggest that you get as many medical opinions as possible. It may require a family response (change behaviors or support factors), her behaviors may be influenced by diet, drugs or there may be a chemical imbalance. Irrespective, I wish you luck and hope that your entire family finds peace and a combined supported outcome. | |
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Tyne
Joined: Oct 31, '09
Status: New User |
2009-10-31 05:31:32 |
| Mirage, I feel for you and what your family is going through. To the others in the forum, my goodness, Hip and Synapse what are you doing! This woman is asking for help and the best your ignorance can come up with is that she must be a s..ty parent! What projection!!! Mirage your child is suffering and is enjoying creating suffering around her. Im not a doctor, just another person trying to understand anothers personality disorders, but may I suggest that you get as many medical opinions as possible. It may require a family response (change behaviors or support factors), her behaviors may be influenced by diet, drugs or there may be a chemical imbalance. Irrespective, I wish you luck and hope that your entire family finds peace and a combined supported outcome. | |
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Synapse
Joined: Oct 24, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-10-31 06:57:43 |
| Well she has 7 kids, one of whom is cutting herself and abusing others, and the first thing she thinks is how to get her sectioned? Not find out what's the matter? Maybe she's getting bullied/sexually abused? f---ing s---ty parent and I stand by my statement. | |
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Synapse
Joined: Oct 24, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-10-31 06:59:05 |
| Also you can argue all you want but someone who has 7 kids is an irresponsible slut and you know i'm right | |
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Synapse
Joined: Oct 24, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-10-31 07:01:09 |
| The world is overpopulated as it is. f---ing b----. | |
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Synapse
Joined: Oct 24, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-10-31 07:04:54 |
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"her behaviors may be influenced by diet, drugs or there may be a chemical imbalance." Oh come on! Am I the ONLY person that thinks she could be getting bullied or abused? Show some f---ing remorse people, not every teenager is a drug addict! Jesus f---ing christ, this is what happens when you watch Fox News too much. |
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Synapse
Joined: Oct 24, '09
Status: Junior User |
2009-10-31 07:22:28 |
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Also normal people commit crimes, too. And normal people do nasty things from time to time. And it's normal to want your own way. I keep coming back to this thread because it f---ing enrages me, you are makin the problem worse instead of helping she WILL become a sociopath because you failed to help her when she needs it. And then you will say "see she was a bad seed" and lock her up and carry on living your happy little life without her. You make me sick. |
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Unanswered Thread: OCD Bracelet Fund Raiser posted by vbaz 34 days ago |
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